So I just siigned up here recently. I have been reading the posts and learning as much as I can and I appreciate everyone's honesty when it comes to what can be a challenging relationship issue.
So my story...
My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we are and continue to be happy. About 6 months ago, we added another man to our life. He did not live in and I will confess, it was mostly sexual in nature with the possibility he may move in with me and hubby sometime down the line.
Now with hubby and we have been 100% open...everytime me and #3 spent time together I would tell him so he had no worries.
But the other night he came out and asked me who I preferred when it came to the bedroom activities....And I was honest and told him #3. He was pretty devastated by this and I didn't expect it. I didn't want to hurt his feelings but I also didn't want to lie.
Now I'm thinking the whole relationship is ruined. And I don't mean our marriage, we will be fine, but if hubby can't accept that I may prefer another man to him sexually, which could easily change over time, then is a poly relationship not for him/us?
So my story...
My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we are and continue to be happy. About 6 months ago, we added another man to our life. He did not live in and I will confess, it was mostly sexual in nature with the possibility he may move in with me and hubby sometime down the line.
Now with hubby and we have been 100% open...everytime me and #3 spent time together I would tell him so he had no worries.
But the other night he came out and asked me who I preferred when it came to the bedroom activities....And I was honest and told him #3. He was pretty devastated by this and I didn't expect it. I didn't want to hurt his feelings but I also didn't want to lie.
Now I'm thinking the whole relationship is ruined. And I don't mean our marriage, we will be fine, but if hubby can't accept that I may prefer another man to him sexually, which could easily change over time, then is a poly relationship not for him/us?