Hey folks,
So, a familiar story ... newly opened hetero marriage: she has ample dates, I'm struggling to get anyone on OKC to even notice me. Online and off, married men over 50 seem to be kryptonite haha.
I've been reading and thinking and processing quite a bit. At this point I don't feel jealous, and I'm assured that she loves me wholeheartedly, so that's good.
But I'm not happy, either - it feels like someone has said, "Hey, there's this great new thing you can have - a terrific marriage AND dates with other women," but when I reach for it, there's nothing there.
I was reading another thread here, and some wise, senior member cautioned someone against falling into a victim role - she mentioned it was his choice to assume or not assume that posture.
I don't want to be a victim. Can someone maybe share some coping strategies to get through this rough patch?
I'm really trying to stay as open and loving about myself, my wife, and our choices as I can.
Thanks. Y'all are super awesome.
Andre
So, a familiar story ... newly opened hetero marriage: she has ample dates, I'm struggling to get anyone on OKC to even notice me. Online and off, married men over 50 seem to be kryptonite haha.
I've been reading and thinking and processing quite a bit. At this point I don't feel jealous, and I'm assured that she loves me wholeheartedly, so that's good.
But I'm not happy, either - it feels like someone has said, "Hey, there's this great new thing you can have - a terrific marriage AND dates with other women," but when I reach for it, there's nothing there.
I was reading another thread here, and some wise, senior member cautioned someone against falling into a victim role - she mentioned it was his choice to assume or not assume that posture.
I don't want to be a victim. Can someone maybe share some coping strategies to get through this rough patch?
I'm really trying to stay as open and loving about myself, my wife, and our choices as I can.
Thanks. Y'all are super awesome.
Andre