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Old 09-14-2016, 05:26 PM
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Don't know if any said anything about about common law marriage (didn't read all the responses :P)

Double check states for Common Law marriage and what are the laws pertaining to that. Common Law is recognized in Colorado and just saying you're married or having a ceremony legally binds you as married and if you do a ceremony with 3 people you could run in to legal problems there. Just a thought
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Old 09-14-2016, 06:07 PM
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-How do we come out to parents?
Many people don't and live perfectly happy lives, sometimes having pleasant visits with family with or without their partners.

I told my mom explicitly because she's cool and loves me unconditionally. It was fun to explode her brain with the relationship zigzag, including my girlfriend's trans husband, his boyfriend who's my former boss, and the fact that her kids' other dad is gay and they were literally conceived with a turkey baster and now live in both homes pretty freely. My dad, on the other hand, I've only come out implicitly by mentioning "my girlfriend" interchangeably with just using her name in contexts that suggest more partner than friend. That's not because I worry about what he'd think, he's great, but it just hasn't really come up and been necessary. My gf doesn't travel with me for holidays to where my parents live because she's got her family here.

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For them, my girlfriend has already been verbally abused for being trans without the addition of an alternative relationship style... Is it safe to come out?
No. That relationship probably isn't safe for her in general, unless the abuser has accepted that they're an abuser and gone for help. My gf's husband has pretty much had to cut off ties with his family because everything they say and do is still so hurtful.

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my boyfriend grew up with a strict southern father. Is it safe to come out?
He's unlikely to be accepting of it, but his strictness as a father is irrelevant now that his son is grown-up an out of the house. Beyond that, only the boyfriend really knows the father well enough to know whether it's worth the risk and hassle. If you guys want to do holidays with his family or something, then you'd have to... otherwise, probably not worth the bother.

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Is there a place we can go where our rights will be protected? For example where we can't be discriminated against in the work place by means of 'moral clauses'?
Not constitutionally, but lots of unions prevent you from being fired for anything but a really good reason that's relevant to the job, and even then you usually get multiple attempts to fix the problem... so if you can time these transitions with the next upswing of the economy, and meanwhile position yourself with the skills to get a union job... and hey, benefits and a pension too! Get three union jobs!
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Old 09-14-2016, 06:37 PM
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Not constitutionally, but lots of unions prevent you from being fired for anything but a really good reason that's relevant to the job, and even then you usually get multiple attempts to fix the problem... so if you can time these transitions with the next upswing of the economy, and meanwhile position yourself with the skills to get a union job... and hey, benefits and a pension too! Get three union jobs!
Ooh! This is really good to know! I've never been in a unionized job before, so I don't know much about them, but it looks like it is time for me to do more reading. Thank you!!
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