Nothing came of it. We planned a date for last Saturday evening, but he cancelled in the morning, citing problems with a paper he was writing. He was very polite and apologetic. He said he'd let me know when he had free time again. I texted him back wishing him well. I haven't heard from him all week, so yesterday I texted just asking how are things going. No reply.
So yesterday I got a brief text from that guy.
Hey there! Sorry the last few days have been very busy for me! How have you been?
I saw his message when it came in, and had time to respond, so I said, "Oh hi [his name]! Exam time or something?"
And he didn't respond. For fuck's sake! Shit or get off the pot, dude.
In other okc madness, I was looking over the people who have viewed my profile. I rarely do this, as I figure if they like me, they will message me. But I just felt like doing it. There were 2 or 300 lookie loos since the last time I checked. I scanned a few dozen. Most of them were low matches. I did see one guy who was nice looking, 69 years old. So I checked his profile. It was well written, but he was an observant Jew and seemed kind of too serious for me. He made a point of saying how he didn't like material things. He did mention enjoying good food and wine on Shabbat. But nothing else resonated. So I just moved on.
Shortly thereafter, he wrote to me.
Hello,
Since we only have a 50% OKC match, it is a mystery to me how we ever got connected in the firat place. However, after I looked at your profile, I wondered how we only have a 50% match.
I am sure that you would not read (see) my profile in that way. I am of two minds...... One is the picture that my profile presents, and the other is as a much more sexual being, which resonates with your profile.
Please think about me in that light, and if you would like to continue this discourse let me know.
Ciao, [his name]
I looked at his profile again, and while I did, he wrote again.
I responded,
Hi [name], thank you for the invitation. Funny how you bring up sex.
I am not sure I share enough of an approach to life to share in yours. You've read my profile? I am bisexual, polyamorous, pagan, etc... I also like material things. I collect vintage Pyrex, thrift store shopping is a hobby of mine. I appreciate the art of vintage houseware design. And its usefulness, as I love to cook.
I live with my female partner of 7 years. She and I are both polyamorous and each date our others separately.
If any of this makes you uncomfortable, I understand! To each her or his own!
Cheers, Mags
So what does he say in return?
Hello Mags,
It does not make me at all uncomfortable. That is part of the irony of the OKC "matching system". maybe we could have a wonderful three some (unless you would be uncomfortable with that).
Then another message (since it was Friday about to be sundown):
I do need to be "off the air" in about 25 minutes.
!!! What the fuck.
I responded immediately
A threesome? With my gf and me? We don't do that.
Yesterday after his 24 hours communing with Yahweh, he says
Okay, just asking. If it doesn't work, that's certainly fine.
So today I responded
It's strange you brought it up, since I made a point to specifically tell you my gf and I date our others separately. Just to be invited for sex myself, when we haven't even discussed other topics first, seems a bit forward. But to ask if my girlfriend, whom you haven't even seen the profile of, could join us for sex! Goodness.
I don't think of OKC as a "hookup" site. For me, it is a dating site. That is why I took the trouble to write such an extensive profile listing all my interests and loves, and non-sexual passions such as the history of religion and the type of art I like.
Within minutes I noticed he again checked my profile, but didn't message me. LOL. What an idiot. I guess his hard cock was literally blocking the screen where I first warned him my gf and I date separately.