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Old 08-19-2018, 04:57 PM
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Sorry to hear that things are not working out with Laptop. I can see why that would make you sad.

It seems like you have taken stock of your own boundaries, and realized that this relationship is not for you. You do have to have healthy boundaries.
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Old 08-19-2018, 06:55 PM
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But another part of me feels like for whatever reason I am just too invested in him to be able to have good boundaries if we were to go back to just being friends.
I think it's ok to let it end if you cannot respect your own boundaries around him and he tempts you into unhealthy dynamics.

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Itís not necessarily that he treats me poorly ó so much as it is that he just doesnít recognize how I want to be treated by him.
At minimum -- you don't have styles that mesh. So why keep banging head on wall over it?

If you aren't treated well here how you want to be treated? Whether he does it on purpose or not, you still get dinged. It's ok to step back so you stop getting dinged.

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