BNLeuck
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Let me first say I'm sorry if any of this is unclear. I think faster than I type and sometimes it gets jumbled. LOL
My name's Brianna. I'm currently in a long-term, committed poly relationship with my boyfriend (I'd use partner, but that suggests same-sex... though boyfriend just seems so transient), Andrew. We have three beautiful little girls together; the oldest will be 5 in April, the middle 4 in April, and the youngest just turned 1 two days ago. I'm sure I don't have to explain to those here how tricky it can be to be polyamorous with small children. Not the polyamory itself, but explaining why we're different from most everyone else. Even gay relationships are easier to explain, since (generally) there are only two people involved.
Very few of our family members know about our lifestyle, and none of them seem to understand. Accept, yes, because we're careful to reveal the entirety of our lives to those we figure will, but understand? Not really. All of this makes it hard to relate to family members and have them share in our lives, and we have to be very careful what we tell our older children as they will repeat it to anyone and everyone. We're not in the least ashamed of our choices, but we get tired of the disapproval and lengthy explanations.
I sought out this board mostly because my boyfriend is currently in a secondary relationship that I'm having a lot of difficulty supporting. He's had a couple other secondary relationships since we've been together, and those were easy to support. I felt at ease with these people, and though I was not invested in them as much as Andrew was, I could consider them friends and welcome them into the "inner circle" of our lives. One of them, a very serious one, went very very badly fairly recently, so I'm wondering if maybe I've just been hit hard by it and am unwilling to trust again. I'm trying to work through my honest feelings about the relationship to understand why I don't feel I can accept this woman as anything but some tertiary "friend with benefits" sort. I'm hoping to find some support and like-minded friends I can talk things through with, and build some lasting friendships with.
My name's Brianna. I'm currently in a long-term, committed poly relationship with my boyfriend (I'd use partner, but that suggests same-sex... though boyfriend just seems so transient), Andrew. We have three beautiful little girls together; the oldest will be 5 in April, the middle 4 in April, and the youngest just turned 1 two days ago. I'm sure I don't have to explain to those here how tricky it can be to be polyamorous with small children. Not the polyamory itself, but explaining why we're different from most everyone else. Even gay relationships are easier to explain, since (generally) there are only two people involved.
Very few of our family members know about our lifestyle, and none of them seem to understand. Accept, yes, because we're careful to reveal the entirety of our lives to those we figure will, but understand? Not really. All of this makes it hard to relate to family members and have them share in our lives, and we have to be very careful what we tell our older children as they will repeat it to anyone and everyone. We're not in the least ashamed of our choices, but we get tired of the disapproval and lengthy explanations.
I sought out this board mostly because my boyfriend is currently in a secondary relationship that I'm having a lot of difficulty supporting. He's had a couple other secondary relationships since we've been together, and those were easy to support. I felt at ease with these people, and though I was not invested in them as much as Andrew was, I could consider them friends and welcome them into the "inner circle" of our lives. One of them, a very serious one, went very very badly fairly recently, so I'm wondering if maybe I've just been hit hard by it and am unwilling to trust again. I'm trying to work through my honest feelings about the relationship to understand why I don't feel I can accept this woman as anything but some tertiary "friend with benefits" sort. I'm hoping to find some support and like-minded friends I can talk things through with, and build some lasting friendships with.