transitapparent
New member
plenty of fish
I think that the point Hades was trying to make is not WHERE we meet people, but the intentionality of it.
In our experience, when you are saying "OH--I want to meet someone," it has rarely worked out that we meet a person with whom we really connect. It's only when we are just living our lives and doing our thing that we've tended to somehow stumble across the person with whom we feel a connection.
So what Hades is getting at is if you are intentionally seeking a partner does that tend to work out or is it more something that happens?
I do make it clear that I am allowed to have opposite sex friends within my couple.
My feeling is that if you are "looking" for people, it tends to not happen.
My feeling is that if you are "looking" for people, it tends to not happen.
...instead of looking for people to meet, I'm just trying to get out more, and get more involved with activities I love and eventually I figure I'll meet someone that way.
I have another thread going about how some of the opposite sex people I meet in casual encounters soon give up contact since they know I am in a relationship.
I mean even just trying to maintain friendship with opposite sex is not that easy.
I DO have a few successes in that field but it's really a long shot...
Am I wrong? Should I be more patient? Should I approach this differently?
I do make it clear that I am allowed to have opposite sex friends within my
couple.
I am asking because I am trying to stay away from the usual bar scene and try to meet everyday girls around my workplace etc...
Thanks!
Anyone would like to answer my original question please?