Lately I have been thinking of talking to my current partner of 2 1/2 years, who I live with, about exploring opening our relationship. I tried once before but it did not go well.
However before I try again I want to make sure I am doing it for the right reasons but I just am not sure. Firstly I love my boyfriend, and am very happy in our relationship. We have great communication and we managed to talk through me bringing this up initially. However, we are both 24, and I can really see myself marrying him one day (years down the line) but I also feel like I am not ready to sexually limit myself.
There is a guy in California (I am in NY), that I used to sleep with before my bf. It was a great sexual relationship with a lot of trust and friendship although we never were an official couple as I was going to school out of state. I saw him recently and our connection and chemistry is just as amazing as it always was. I know if things were to open up I would want to explore sex with him more. I have talked to him and he wants to sleep with me too, but we are both actively trying to respect the boundaries of my relationship currently.
Im just not sure - do I want sexual openness in my relationship, or am I just looking for a way to cheat without cheating? I was cheated on before and it is the last thing I want to do to my bf. I would never want to disrespect him in that way.
And I am a bit uncomfortable thinking about him with other women. And I feel I need more clarity in understanding my feelings there as well as I know a one sided open relationship could not work for us (we talked through that part).
I'm just so confused and don't know how to start processing this all.
Any advice is welcome and thank you so much.
However before I try again I want to make sure I am doing it for the right reasons but I just am not sure. Firstly I love my boyfriend, and am very happy in our relationship. We have great communication and we managed to talk through me bringing this up initially. However, we are both 24, and I can really see myself marrying him one day (years down the line) but I also feel like I am not ready to sexually limit myself.
There is a guy in California (I am in NY), that I used to sleep with before my bf. It was a great sexual relationship with a lot of trust and friendship although we never were an official couple as I was going to school out of state. I saw him recently and our connection and chemistry is just as amazing as it always was. I know if things were to open up I would want to explore sex with him more. I have talked to him and he wants to sleep with me too, but we are both actively trying to respect the boundaries of my relationship currently.
Im just not sure - do I want sexual openness in my relationship, or am I just looking for a way to cheat without cheating? I was cheated on before and it is the last thing I want to do to my bf. I would never want to disrespect him in that way.
And I am a bit uncomfortable thinking about him with other women. And I feel I need more clarity in understanding my feelings there as well as I know a one sided open relationship could not work for us (we talked through that part).
I'm just so confused and don't know how to start processing this all.
Any advice is welcome and thank you so much.