ColorsWolf
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You missed the point altogether. "Fake it 'til you make it" isn't about lying at all. Sheesh, where did you come up with that? It's about giving oneself certain self-motivating cues when one feels less than confident, capable, or secure in new situations. Basically asking yourself what a confident person would do or say, or what a wise person would do or say, and then emulating that kind of person and doing those things to find your own sense of confidence from doing/saying those things before you actually feel confident. It is a way to become more grounded in expressing and/or living with your choices by using an exercise that is about practicing what you preach, and building a foundation from the outside in.
As long as you're not actively telling other people things that "aren't yet true" then you are right: this isn't lying.~
I do know what you mean though: if you are normally reserved and not prone to speaking your opinions in public because you are afraid to do these things and you decide to be the opposite of what you are usually like: you will still have that fear, but the hope is that the more you keep doing this the less afraid you will be until that fear is gone and you become closer to being like the person you really want to be.~
I'm also honest with people, if some one were to ask me if I ever get afraid to speak my mind and be myself in public (as I am often flamboyant, loud, and my opinions are usually the opposite of what is considered "conservative"): I would answer them honestly and say "yes", but I would also tell them that courage is not the absence of fear, but the realization that some thing is more important than fear and to keep going even with that fear present.~
I do this almost every chance I get for the above reasons to.~
Thank you for clearing that up, I think I understand it better now.~ ^_^
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