Hello, everyone. I'm having a really tough time and I'd appreciate some thoughts or advice.
Back in March I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I had previously been in a relationship with his wife also, and we had all lived together for three years, along with their young daughter. I came into their lives when the daughter was 4 years old, and she thinks of me as another parent, and she's been told for years that I'm her family. I love her, and she loves me, and I've done everything I can since the break-up to see her.
I feel like I'm slowly being edged out of her life. The parents took nearly 2 weeks to respond to my last email asking when I could next spend time with their daughter, and the response was basically 'not in the next 2 weeks, we're busy'. I asked when I would be able to see her, and got the response 'we don't know, the summer is busy for us'. I am incredibly upset. I know this child wants to see me - every time I have a couple of hours with her she tells me that she misses me, and she wishes we could have sleep-overs, and asks when she can see me again. And I miss her!
I don't really know how to handle this. I spent an hour on the phone last night crying to my fiancé because I feel like they're going to stop me from seeing her. I have no legal rights in this situation, and as you may have gathered from what's going on I am not on speaking terms with her parents. I feel as though they are being deliberately vindictive, and using their daughter to punish me for ending my relationship with her father, hurting her and I in the process.
My fiancé and I were also planning on asking her to be flower girl at our wedding next summer, along with his two young daughters, and now I feel like that simply isn't going to happen. She's my family, and I don't want to loose her.
Any advice, or suggestions, are very much appreciated.
Back in March I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I had previously been in a relationship with his wife also, and we had all lived together for three years, along with their young daughter. I came into their lives when the daughter was 4 years old, and she thinks of me as another parent, and she's been told for years that I'm her family. I love her, and she loves me, and I've done everything I can since the break-up to see her.
I feel like I'm slowly being edged out of her life. The parents took nearly 2 weeks to respond to my last email asking when I could next spend time with their daughter, and the response was basically 'not in the next 2 weeks, we're busy'. I asked when I would be able to see her, and got the response 'we don't know, the summer is busy for us'. I am incredibly upset. I know this child wants to see me - every time I have a couple of hours with her she tells me that she misses me, and she wishes we could have sleep-overs, and asks when she can see me again. And I miss her!
I don't really know how to handle this. I spent an hour on the phone last night crying to my fiancé because I feel like they're going to stop me from seeing her. I have no legal rights in this situation, and as you may have gathered from what's going on I am not on speaking terms with her parents. I feel as though they are being deliberately vindictive, and using their daughter to punish me for ending my relationship with her father, hurting her and I in the process.
My fiancé and I were also planning on asking her to be flower girl at our wedding next summer, along with his two young daughters, and now I feel like that simply isn't going to happen. She's my family, and I don't want to loose her.
Any advice, or suggestions, are very much appreciated.