Getting texts from others, metamours or just friends and family, well, it just happens.
If I am out on a date with someone and one of us gets a text, so what? Check it. If it's important, excuse yourself and text back. If the person texting you just wants to casually chat, while you're actively on a date, eating, movie, some event, no, tell them you're busy, ttyl!
If your metamour definitely knows your bf is sleeping beside you, knows he takes sleeping pills and won't hear the text go off, and she texts him at 1am anyway, it sounds malicious,and made in the hopes of annoying you, coupled with the other jealous behavior you say she has been exhibiting.
However, if you and he are on a 3day weekend date, surely either or both of you could set aside a half hour or whatever amount of time, at least one of the days, to text others who need some attention. Spouses, OSOs, a friend who has needs, kids, grandma, whoever!
I was slightly rude to my gf last night because I'd just started texting a new boy from OKC, and she realized she'd left her CC at the pub we'd been to the night before for a party. So we had to return to the pub to pick it up, but new hottie and I had just started a conversation before gf and I found we had to go out. She and I had a beer while we were there. Maybe she felt it was a date, I felt it was more like running an errand, so I continued the text convo with new boy on and off while we had our beers.
There are grey areas.
If I am out on a date with someone and one of us gets a text, so what? Check it. If it's important, excuse yourself and text back. If the person texting you just wants to casually chat, while you're actively on a date, eating, movie, some event, no, tell them you're busy, ttyl!
If your metamour definitely knows your bf is sleeping beside you, knows he takes sleeping pills and won't hear the text go off, and she texts him at 1am anyway, it sounds malicious,and made in the hopes of annoying you, coupled with the other jealous behavior you say she has been exhibiting.
However, if you and he are on a 3day weekend date, surely either or both of you could set aside a half hour or whatever amount of time, at least one of the days, to text others who need some attention. Spouses, OSOs, a friend who has needs, kids, grandma, whoever!
I was slightly rude to my gf last night because I'd just started texting a new boy from OKC, and she realized she'd left her CC at the pub we'd been to the night before for a party. So we had to return to the pub to pick it up, but new hottie and I had just started a conversation before gf and I found we had to go out. She and I had a beer while we were there. Maybe she felt it was a date, I felt it was more like running an errand, so I continued the text convo with new boy on and off while we had our beers.
There are grey areas.