nomadphysicist
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Hello everyone,
Long story short, I'm hetero man, with bi woman. My partner T associates as poly, me I'd never thought about Poly before being with T, actually she has been my only partner, but I'm trying it. We officially polyfied our relationship about 3 months ago, previously my partner had had a few trial relationships let's say. We have a son, S, between us.
So my problem is this. Last week, I went out and unexpectedly found myself meeting, hitting on and kissing a girl I met at a party. I didn't tell her then that I have a kid, partner, am poly. I guess I thought it would just be too much at once and didn't need to be said initially. However, today she calls me up and asks if I want to hang out. Right now, T is away visiting her very new romantic interest, so I'm looking after my son full time. I was a bit flabbergasted, so I said I had to do some work tonight and that I'd call her tomorrow to organise something for tomorrow.
So, what do I do? I can pretty much only invite her round my house tomorrow evening as have to get S to sleep etc. And in that case I have to tell her I have a son, he has a mum, who lives here and we're poly together but that seems like something I should tell her before coming round, but something that I shouldn't just text her. This is my first time trying anything like this and I thought there's probably someone here who knows this situation and what might work.
Alternatively, I can just say I have a son and not talk about his mum, or just say his mum is away at her boyfriends but it seems that if anything were to develop it wouldn't be great to start off with that deception.
So any ideas?
Long story short, I'm hetero man, with bi woman. My partner T associates as poly, me I'd never thought about Poly before being with T, actually she has been my only partner, but I'm trying it. We officially polyfied our relationship about 3 months ago, previously my partner had had a few trial relationships let's say. We have a son, S, between us.
So my problem is this. Last week, I went out and unexpectedly found myself meeting, hitting on and kissing a girl I met at a party. I didn't tell her then that I have a kid, partner, am poly. I guess I thought it would just be too much at once and didn't need to be said initially. However, today she calls me up and asks if I want to hang out. Right now, T is away visiting her very new romantic interest, so I'm looking after my son full time. I was a bit flabbergasted, so I said I had to do some work tonight and that I'd call her tomorrow to organise something for tomorrow.
So, what do I do? I can pretty much only invite her round my house tomorrow evening as have to get S to sleep etc. And in that case I have to tell her I have a son, he has a mum, who lives here and we're poly together but that seems like something I should tell her before coming round, but something that I shouldn't just text her. This is my first time trying anything like this and I thought there's probably someone here who knows this situation and what might work.
Alternatively, I can just say I have a son and not talk about his mum, or just say his mum is away at her boyfriends but it seems that if anything were to develop it wouldn't be great to start off with that deception.
So any ideas?
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