Norwegianpoly
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Hi,
I am not sure if others have this issue, but I feel very affected by it when some of my friends choose to end their relationships. I am sure they did their best to keep the relationships going, perhaps they were bad matches to begin with and so on, but I still feel bad when my friends break up, at least until they find new partners. Often I try to keep in contact with everyone, but I am often still sad.
With my poly friends, I feel this even stronger. My poly network in my own contry is not big. The issue is that people often not only break up, but they question polyamory. If they belonged to a long standing couple, typically the couple remains and the newest additions are the ones that fall out, either way I try to be in contact if I can.
Recent events are; I have known this poly family for a few years, in fact they helped build the community in my city. The last year or so, instead of throwing parties they have been ought of sight. I was a little worried, and this week they confirmed that they are no longer a V. Even if I have been in the community longer than they have, I have only dated poly proper for the last 2,5 years. While I don't have role models per se, they were close to it in a sense. They had a stable economy and were able to buy a house together, they shared pets and travelled, everything I want to do but have a baby. They were even open with family. I saw myself slowly changing my life to something that looked like theirs. I have other people I look up to, but I feel so sad. I worry that I will loose touch with them because we no longer have this important thing in common.
Have anyone been in this situation and want to offer any advice?
I am not sure if others have this issue, but I feel very affected by it when some of my friends choose to end their relationships. I am sure they did their best to keep the relationships going, perhaps they were bad matches to begin with and so on, but I still feel bad when my friends break up, at least until they find new partners. Often I try to keep in contact with everyone, but I am often still sad.
With my poly friends, I feel this even stronger. My poly network in my own contry is not big. The issue is that people often not only break up, but they question polyamory. If they belonged to a long standing couple, typically the couple remains and the newest additions are the ones that fall out, either way I try to be in contact if I can.
Recent events are; I have known this poly family for a few years, in fact they helped build the community in my city. The last year or so, instead of throwing parties they have been ought of sight. I was a little worried, and this week they confirmed that they are no longer a V. Even if I have been in the community longer than they have, I have only dated poly proper for the last 2,5 years. While I don't have role models per se, they were close to it in a sense. They had a stable economy and were able to buy a house together, they shared pets and travelled, everything I want to do but have a baby. They were even open with family. I saw myself slowly changing my life to something that looked like theirs. I have other people I look up to, but I feel so sad. I worry that I will loose touch with them because we no longer have this important thing in common.
Have anyone been in this situation and want to offer any advice?