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Old 06-18-2014, 12:42 AM
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Oo-oo-oo! So, I'm tentatively excited about someone for the first time since getting swept away by Rider! This is really good, because if it turns into something, I'll actually have someone to hang out with on the nights when Rider is with Claire and I'm otherwise feeling a little lonely. I found him on a dating site, and usually, I am very "meh" about most of the people on there. Either they're not cute enough, or not poly enough, or not smart enough, or seem like they have a shitty personality, or...or...or...not that I don't think I'd like them as a person or as a friend, but that "special combo"—the je ne sais quoi—is really hard for me to come by. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm super-picky, and my attraction to people is very unpredictable.

For whatever reason, though, this guy, Brandon, caught my eye right away. He's not mind-bendingly conventionally attractive, though he's certainly quite cute and right up my own alley; when I shared his profile with Oona, she said that he was "not her cup of tea." But it was some quality in his eyes—a kindness, a playfulness, a freedom of spirit—that drew my attention. I was browsing only among my highest match percentages, and I'm sure his profile had been up a while, but his main pic was zoomed out enough that it didn't make me click it out of looks alone, more out of curiosity. Once I read his profile and his question answers and browsed his pics, I actually had BUTTERFLIES! From someone I'd never even talked to!

Of course, there's always the chance that there will be zero chemistry in person, or that he will have the world's most annoying voice or something...but somehow I doubt it. He appears confident enough of a person that he's used to being well received, but not so confident as to be douchey and take himself too seriously.

I messaged him and he wrote me back almost immediately, saying that I "have his attention, but he's busy and needs to write back in more depth later." He seems sweet and smart and genuinely eager to meet me. We have a lot in common. He's never dated poly before, but when I explained it to him, he said that it "makes perfect sense" to him and that it "seems natural" and cited the percentage of people he's known in otherwise happy relationships who have cheated and then broken up.

Sadly, I'm so busy in the coming weeks that it'll probably be close to a month before I can meet him in person, barring some act of fate. But he said that he's patient, and that I seem "worth it."

And I don't think it hurts that he shares some of the same physical traits that I find so endearing in Rider. Apparently, I have a new "type." Hehehe.

I've also replied to another message from another guy who seems attractive enough, looks-wise, and certainly smart, but his personality doesn't call to me in the same way. I get the feeling he may be more of the troubled, brooding type that I used to go for that always got me into trouble and heartache. We'll see about that one.

So, yay for new possibility, especially one that I'm actually excited about. I'd like for there to be someone that I could even feel remotely as electric with as I do with Rider. He sets every inch of me on fire—sometimes just thinking of him does, and he doesn't even have to be there. And it makes everything I've ever felt with anyone else pale so much in comparison that it's like it doesn't even exist. So to have even the smallest flicker of excitement for someone else...it's refreshing. It means that I'm not "doomed" to being functionally monogamous until my NRE for Rider wears off. Which isn't really a problem in itself, but as I've mentioned, a way to fill some of the empty nights would be nice.

Here's to hoping!
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Old 06-20-2014, 01:41 AM
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Feeling a little bit of poly-fail today.

Firstly, Brandon hasn't messaged me back in a couple of days, though I can see that he's logged into the site where we were chatting. Maybe he's just busy, but maybe I said something wrong? I guess I'll just have to wait and see. I'm traveling for ten days, starting tomorrow, which he knows; if I don't hear back from him, I'll message him once more to let him know that I'm back in town.

Secondly, more sadness on the Claire front: Rider told me that she'd mentioned to him that I was trying to "buddy up to her lately" on Facebook. I was very surprised by this, because I hadn't been trying to do anything of the sort. We've been FB friends since well before Rider and I started dating, when he and I were just friends, and I treat her the same way I treat everyone else in my news feed: if she posts something I like, I'll "like" it, and if she posts something that I have a comment on, I'll comment on it. I've not tried to be especially "buddy-buddy" with her, or to say anything that was intended to invite closeness.

And then she said to him, of the friendship that she assumed I was trying to actively pursue, "It's never going to happen."

I guess I should have just been basically ignoring her posts? I know that she doesn't want to see evidence of my relationship with Rider, but I didn't figure that she was so put off by me that I shouldn't signal when I appreciated something she'd posted. So I'll stop.

It's confusing to me, because she once took me up on an offer to send her an audiobook as a result of an exchange we had on a comment thread. That certainly didn't give me the impression that any contact was unwelcome.

Other than those two unfortunate bits of poly-fail, things have been good. I spent the night with Rider last night, and we had a great time, as usual. He makes me smile and laugh and lust so much, and my sleep beside him was deep, luscious, and restful. If only everything in life was as easy as our connection.
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Old 06-24-2014, 01:46 AM
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Holycrapholycrapholycrapholycrap!

So, it appears that I have a second boyfriend now...who also happens to be my ex-husband, Moss! I just got done visiting his city and we reconnected in a very meaningful way. Apparently, he is now poly-friendly, and is completely cool with the idea of being with me long-distance and with both of us dating others in our own respective opposite-coast cities. He even wants to meet Rider!

This is so amazing and crazy. He and I broke up years ago, for a whole bunch of reasons, but one of them was that I didn't think I wanted to be monogamous anymore, and he wasn't cool with that. But we stayed really good friends this entire time, and over time, all of the things that caused our marriage to end were forgiven, forgotten, and replaced with new, good memories of our friendship.

I never completely stopped being attracted to him—he's a good-looking guy and a GREAT kisser—but it wasn't something I thought about very often, due to various circumstances. But during this visit, we had a bunch of really good sex, and it felt so natural just being close to him again. I checked in with him a bunch of times over the course of our weekend, making sure that I wasn't inadvertently hurting him in some way, but he really and truly seemed excited, happy, and not at all bothered by anything.

I probably won't get to see him more than a couple of times a year (at least, until I find out what's happening with my tentative move to Opposite Coast), but it's so great that when I do, we can really be fully together.

Also, Brandon finally wrote me back AND I'm rendezvousing with Rider in just three days! I'm so excited to be hanging out with Rider and Oona again, here in beautiful Opposite Coast City.

Plus, while I've been off visiting with Moss, Rider has gotten to have some serious QT with Claire, which makes her happy. She's even the one bringing him to the airport on Thursday to come see me—very cool.

Things are definitely looking WAY up from where they were the last time I posted here. I'm super-excited about everything that's happening!
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Old 07-05-2014, 10:44 PM
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Wow, I have been so busy lately. My hard drive died while I was on my trip, so then I had to spend a couple of days restoring everything. I have to make this a short one, because I don't have a lot of free time right now.

Things are going well on the relationship front. Rider and I are still doing amazingly well. Moss and I have been keeping up a regular, sweet correspondence. Brandon and I have finally set a date for our first meeting, which will happen in a week and some change.

I also have been exchanging casual correspondence with four (seriously, FOUR!) other good-looking, intelligent, reasonably interesting guys who have contacted me through various avenues: our local poly meetup group, dating sites, etc. It's raining hot men! I'm still the most excited about Brandon, though.

I've been keeping in friendly touch with Alex, as well. I really like him as a person—he's very smart and sweet and easy on the eyes—but even aside from the restrictions his SO put on him, I'm not at all chemically attracted to him. So there's no danger of my "playing with fire" there, as it were. We just enjoy chatting online and the occasional platonic lunch.

On my trip, I had some fun sexiness with Oona, which was nice. It had been awhile since I'd been with a woman (since she last visited me, actually), and I do like that from time to time. By the time Rider got to town, though, she was bleeding, so group escapades did not take place. Kind of a bummer, because it was hot to watch them together last time, but my disappointment didn't last long. We all had a fantastic time just hanging out and doing normal friend stuff.

When Rider and I finally got back to our town of residence, we had the most mind-blowing sex; all that tension that had built up over ten days of not having any time alone together just exploded out all over the place. I set a record for the number of orgasms I had in a single session. The man is made of magic!
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Old 07-09-2014, 07:51 AM
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Hmm. OK, so I have mentioned the four "other" (that is, not-Brandon) online men I've been talking to. I had a FaceTime conversation with one of them (Arturo) today, that I'd actually been kind of dreading, just because I'd been so busy and he'd been so persistent. Now, Arturo isn't 100% an online person. I actually saw him in person before I ever started talking to him online, through a poly Meetup group.

Apparently, he was wanting to talk to me all night, but he never got the chance. I noticed him immediately, as the cutest guy there (or at least on-par with Alex, who I'd come there to meet), but there was something a little "bro" about the way he dressed, and he was a little beefcake for me. Plus, the minute he walked in, all the other women in the room about died, and I did not feel like elbowing my way through a crowd to talk to this guy.

He later messaged me through the group and explained that the only reason he'd even gone to that event was that he was hoping to see me there, but I slipped out while he was "trapped" in the throng of women. He wanted my number, and I figured what the hell, and I gave it and my social network name to him, and we'd been chatting ever since.

I surreptitiously checked him out on a dating site since then, and the dating site does not seem to think we'd be very compatible—mostly drug- and religion-related issues (I'm pro-drug and anti-religion, and he seems to be the opposite). I think it might be a cultural thing, since he's from Latin America, and despite having some Latin-American blood, I was raised very typical-North-American-white. I don't think he's VERY religious, but he does list a religion in that section of his profile. We'll have to discuss it over beer sometime, at which point I will come clean on the stalking.

Still, after talking to him tonight, I'm considering giving him a chance. He seems very smart. Despite having an accent, he has wonderful English vocabulary with just enough non-native quirks to be adorable; he thinks deeply about things, cares about the state of the world, and seems genuine and compassionate. Plus, he is REALLY cute. And he seems very, very eager to get to know me better. We'll see how that shakes out. If nothing else, I've never slept with someone so muscular, so that could be an interesting thing to dabble in a time or two.

The other thing that happened was that Rider and I hooked up a threesome with this woman, Molly, who lives super close to us. Our meeting her is kind of a funny story: some months ago, I'd messaged her just looking for platonic friends...and it turned out she'd messaged Rider looking to date him! And she didn't know we were together, because we don't link to each other's profiles.

We'd met and hung out platonically once, shortly after we messaged each other, and friended each other on social networks (it turned out we had a mutual friend in common, as well), and then she randomly IMed me over the weekend wanting to know if one or both of us would like to hang out. It was very bizarre, because I'd just been thinking about how much I wanted a threesome earlier that day, and it seemed like a sign. We took her out for beer and then went back to Rider's place, where I cooked dinner, and things just fell into place.

She's a pretty cool person. We had a lot of fun, and I'd totally do it again sometime.

Rider has started joking that I get him more chicks than he gets on his own (and he's kind of a chick-magnet, in general). Poly has been phenomenal for us; I think while we are each attractive on our own, there is something about the way that our connection makes us glow and be full of magic that other people really find compelling. There's a certain confidence that comes from knowing that, no matter what, we will have each other, so we're never afraid of failure when encountering other people. Both he and I have become much more in demand the more into EACH OTHER we get. Strange, but true.

Has anyone else experienced this?
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Old 07-16-2014, 07:21 AM
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More new stuff happened! I sure do have an exciting life!

Tonight's date with Brandon was postponed, because he had to work last-minute, but we're rescheduling for some point over the weekend, TBD.

The most exciting thing is that it was Rider's birthday this past weekend, and we had a great time! He played a rock-n-roll show, which was phenomenal, and his best friend from college, Sam, came and stayed with us at Rider's house. I've had a bit of a crush on Sam since the last time we all hung out, about two or three months ago. We had gone to visit him (he lives about four hours away), and we were all dabbling in substances and sort of cuddling up together. I held both Rider's and Sam's hands at one point, and it felt so calming and so right. I was filled with such love for them both, and that moment became a cherished memory.

I never thought I'd really ACT on the crush, though, because it's Rider's best friend for 20 years—I thought it might be weird for them. But then at one point, Rider brought the idea up. I guess because we'd had a threesome with MY best friend of 15 years, he figured he'd return the favor? Anyway, at that point, I confessed my crush, and Rider said he'd love for something to happen. They're both straight, but he didn't mind sharing.

Everything sort of fell into place as if by providence the night of Rider's birthday. One of his other friends got way too drunk and passed out on the futon that Sam was supposed to sleep on, so he ended up in bed with us, with me in the middle. Nothing but cuddling happened that night, but it became clear to Sam that it was OK if more happened later.

The next night, I got to really have some fun with Sam, while Rider watched. Sam is very shy, very introverted and quiet, with a strong, silent vibe. I'm also pretty sure he has zero experience with poly or group sex—that he's kind of solitary by nature. Seducing him was like leaving a little treat outside of the lair of a timid creature, and then watching with delight as it comes out to inspect and enjoy it once it realizes that it is safe and delicious. I enjoyed drawing him out and making him want me.

Sam has an extraordinarily nice body. It's funny, Rider and Sam are exactly the same height: somewhere between 6'3" and 6'4", but they are opposites in almost every other way. Rider is smooth, soft, pale, freckly, and hairless, while Sam is hard and fuzzy all over, all lanky bones and angles. Being between the two of them, I felt like a tiny creature in a museum of sensation.

I started with Sam and finished with Rider, then we went to sleep with me burrowing my face into Sam's furriness and exotic new scent, while Rider spooned me from behind in a cozy and comforting manner. The next day, we all hung out together and I cooked them both dinner, and it felt perfect and domestic and happy.

To be honest, if Sam lived closer, I could see a solid V forming between the three of us. I think I could love him. And of course, after 20 years of friendship, Rider already does. Remembering my night with them makes my heart race. Rider says he wants to do more the next time we visit him, and I ache for that to come true.

Tangentially relatedly, today Oona was talking about how Rider and I need to hurry up and move to Opposite Coast already. She wants to get a house with us and live as a family. It's kind of strange. She claims to be monogamous, and I know she's not quite as bi as I am, but she hasn't been able to find the partner that she's been looking for, and I think she might be beginning to reconsider. I know she had a lot of fun with me and Rider—sexually and otherwise (you should see the scratches she left on his back!)—and I know that she loves me dearly, but I also know that she doesn't consider him her "type" and that ideally she wants someone she can have to herself.

And yet. She wants to start a life with us. Personally, I think she could come to love him. He's very lovable and just incredible in bed. And she likes them tall and hung, both of which things he has in spades. He's the nicest guy in the world, and loves to dote on women and make them feel like princesses. I have a very "try him, you'll like him!" attitude that I present to her.

Wouldn't it be just the perfect thing if we all ended up together? Me and Rider and our long-time best friends, all living as a family on Opposite Coast? Sam actually lived there before too, at the same time Rider did. We all have history there. I love Oona and Rider, and I could love Sam; I certainly like having sex with all of them! Rider loves me and Sam, and he could love Oona, I'm certain of it. I wonder what will happen when Oona and Sam meet—it's bound to happen sooner or later.

Plus, living on Opposite Coast would put me closer to Moss, and I could see him once or twice a month, like he desires. It would be so idyllic. It's probably all a pipe dream. But what an attractive fantasy.

I guess the only person left out in the cold would be Claire. I'd hate to do that to her. I know she wouldn't want to move with us.

She and Rider had a bit of a problem over his birthday. I guess there had been a misunderstanding between the two of them, where he didn't think she wanted to hang out at all that weekend, but she was waiting for him to invite her to something. I don't know where they would have fit it in! I guess I would have missed out on either sex with Sam or with the next-day dinner. The idea of each of those makes me sad, so even though she was upset, I selfishly regret nothing. I still wish she would just hang out with us.

But I guess they talked and got through it, and she's agreed to loosen up some of the strictness of their DADT for the sake of more natural communication, and she even told Rider that if he and I weren't dating, she and I would probably be friends. Which is nice. She wants to have a threesome with him and her friend Alicia, who I guess they both have a crush on. I don't understand why she can stomach him being with her, but not with me? Maybe it comes down to her level of control in the matter.

Rider even mentioned that he'd love to share Claire with Sam as well...I'll admit, I had a moment of jealousy. Not enough to even mention, but a little momentary flicker. It was a weird sensation of possessiveness where I felt like having both of them was something that I hadn't done enough of yet to be comfortable with someone else having it too. Silly, right? They're autonomous humans, and Claire is no threat to me, so why shouldn't they have fun with her too? And yet, that's what the lizard brain did for a moment.

The other little pang of jealousy that I had was that Rider and Claire worked on music together not long ago. I've come to think of that as something that's "ours," which is extra-silly, because he makes music with a lot of people. Something about the mix of music and romance though really works for us, and I felt jealous that he could share that with someone else. I got over it really quickly, knowing that it was stupid, but the feeling did baffle me.

I think that I might have finally identified my jealousy-trigger, after not even believing that I have one. It's happened in regard to three things: substances, music, and playing with Sam. I apparently am very sensitive to sharing intense ACTIVITIES that either Rider or I have so far, since I've known him, done only together. Like I feel an irrational sense of ownership over them. You can't own an activity, any more than you can own a person, so I'm going to have to get over it. There is no such thing as an activity that belongs to "us"; there are activities that we both like, that we should be able to do with other people as well. Silly lizard brain.
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At least this week, I have more events than usual planned with Rider. I am getting an uncharacteristic nearly-5 days!
I think this is the best part of poly! Or one of. The fact that, yes, I might not get every night with my guy, but then the first 10 day span? I hardly knew what to do with it, it felt like such an excess of time with him. And you SO appreciate it, in a way mono people will never know.

Of course, I get more time with him than a lot of mono people get with each other- so, yeah, there's that too.

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It's funny—I find myself often trying to act as the caretaker of Rider and Claire's relationship. I always want to make sure that she gets her time with him, and I try to do things like make sure that he remembers to wash his sheets, or I pick up my things that are lying around his apartment, so as not to trigger any bad feelings for her. I'm truly and genuinely happy that they have each other, and I know she gives him things that I could not. That sounds odd to my own ears, but it's totally true. I do wish that she were a little more comfortable with me, to the point where she and I could maybe be friends some day, but I guess time will tell on that front. Even though she's the one who suggested poly to him, I think I'm the first other person that he's dated who has a viable shot at being permanent, and I guess she deals with that and with the jealousy that can come up in her own way.
Totally relate there. I used to do that kind of thing all the time for my metamour.
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So much has been going on that I really haven't had much time to post. I've been ridiculously busy with work projects and deadlines, plus Rider and I took a trip to my hometown see a concert and get the tour, where he also met members of my family for the first time, including my not-poly-friendly-but-aware-and-cordial mother. Eek! It went well, though. We took her and my (similarly conservative) sister out to brunch, and both Rider and my mother, who were initially uneasy about each other, seemed to get along just fine and like each other. My mom is a "hate the sin, not the sinner" kind of person (ugh, I know), so I knew she wouldn't be mean to him or anything, but the first time I told her about our relationship, admitting poly from the get-go, she said something religious and snide. But she's a nice, if judgmental, lady. It all went fine.

Something else that happened while I was in Hometown was that Rider very graciously allowed me to bow out of our evening together one night (he chatted with my cousin, with whom we were staying) for about an hour, so that I could get a chance—FINALLY!—to make out with Jake, a guy I'd had a fierce reciprocated crush on since high school, but we'd never been single at the same time. We did have one brief but hot makeout session when I was about 15 or 16, but his friend liked me, so out of bromantic solidarity, he felt guilty and didn't want to do it again. Nearly twenty years later, that friend is happily married, and Jake is still single, living the high life as a sexy bartending grad student living downtown. Over the years, we've visited each other many times, but we always kept it wistfully platonic. Until now.

OMG, it was so freaking HOT. Because we were in Jake's apartment, and because that is where we were ALL hanging out (including Rider and my cousin), Jake and I didn't do much except for hang out in a different room kissing like our lives depended on it. However, I have plans to visit my mom in October, and IT IS ON. I am going to have the sex that I've wanted to have with him since I was literally fourteen years old. We've texted a few times since then, both salivating in anticipation. We could never really DATE, due to the distance (and I am NEVER moving back to Hometown), but having a hot hookup partner whenever I visit solo sounds just incredible to me. I'm going to make his head explode.

The other bit of news is that I finally got to meet Brandon, the dating-website prospect about whom I was so excited. I have...very mixed feelings about him. On the one hand, he's sexy as hell, really smart, really nice, and seems to really like me. On the other hand, he's nearly impossible to make concrete plans with, runs later than anyone I've ever met in my life, and jokes around a wee bit too much for my taste (nervousness, perhaps?)...We had an incredible first date—one of the best I've ever had—and a pretty good first kiss at the end of it. And we've hung out once since then, staying up so late that I let him crash at my place, specifying no sex yet, and we just made out a little bit.

There are definitely sparks there. I think I could like-like him. But the drawbacks I just listed make me a little wary. I kinda want to wait to have sex with him until I'm sure that he won't eventually drive me crazy with his quirks. Don't get me wrong, I like quirks; I'm just not sure that my weirdness and his weirdness synch up right.

As for other things that are going on: I've promised Arturo that I will hang out with him IRL at some point in the next week or two; Moss is coming to visit me for a weekend at the beginning of September; and Rider and I are going to visit Sam in a couple of weeks, with hopes of more playtime. I also still owe one other guy some chat sessions to see if we click well enough to meet up.

I have so many long-distance guys going on now: Moss, Sam, and Jake...but they're so sporadic, and I really am looking for a second local person. I'm not sure if Brandon can fit in that spot or not. If not, maybe Arturo or the other guy (not sure if he will get a name or not).

Oona made me count today: how many people have I kissed since my last (monogamous) relationship ended in February. The tally was eleven: four women (including Oona herself) and seven men. I joked that I'm a "kissing slut." But, you know, why not? As the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs. It just so happens that a large number of those frogs have potential to be at least part-time princes. What can I say? I'm a lucky girl, thrilled to have the opportunity to explore all the potential connections that come my way!

And as for my relationship with Rider, it just keeps on deepening with exposure to all this freedom. I love him more now than I ever have—more every day. Our sex blows my mind. The fireworks when we kiss are still unmatchable, even eleven kissing-partners in. I could seriously see myself with him for the rest of my life. Yes, we've only been together for five months (acquainted for fourteen months, real friends for eight months), so I know a lot of that is NRE, but I've been purposely looking for flaws that could be deal-breakers, and haven't seen any. He feels the same way about me.

Yesterday, we were talking about the Jake situation, and he was saying how great it was that our own relationship could help (in its fashion) facilitate my finally getting to be with Jake, however ephemerally. I told him that I would do the same for him, if there were any long-standing crushes he'd like to realize. I asked him whether there was anyone that I knew, and he started listing people off, linking me to their social media page. Some I knew, some I didn't, but I told him that I'd either wing-woman him or be bi-girl bait for whichever of those the situation applied to.

He told me that I'm the most awesome chick ever, because he'd never imagined that he would not only be confessing crushes to a lover, but also get encouraged and assisted as a result. I think we each found each other just when we were ready—I want to help him make all his dreams come true, even the sexy-times with other people dreams, and he wants to do the same for me. It really is the best life—and the best relationship!—ever. What a keeper!

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Old 08-02-2014, 04:32 AM
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My horrible work-week from hell is finally over, and I'm just trying to wind my brain down before catching up on sleep. I was supposed to be out on a date with Brandon tonight (it's a Rider/Claire night), but I swear to you, that man is harder to get to stick to a schedule than anyone I've ever met. We were supposed to meet up at 10 or 11 p.m., and he suddenly had to work and wanted to push it later. This would have been the third time we'd have hung out, and it would have been the third time he'd kept me waiting, and I just can't let that happen. Besides, I'm really tired from burning the candle at both ends all week. I already know Brandon well enough to know that "a little later" could very well mean 3 a.m.; not having it. It's a shame, but he's going to have to put forth a LOT more effort to make up for all of this if he's really interested. Because, otherwise, I am DONE. Not even angry—I just don't have time or energy for his shenanigans with so much else on my plate.

Truth be told, I have been thinking about Jake a LOT since last weekend. Looking at his pictures on social media, remembering times we had in high school, remembering kissing him. I wish he didn't live a thousand miles away. It's like the high-school girl inside of me was waiting all these years for those kisses, so she could come roaring back to life and get dizzy over him all over again. Those eyes...

None of it makes any sense, really. He's so far away that for me to be pining is almost nonsensical. Don't get me wrong—I don't crave, like, a real relationship with him; as good as we've been friends for nearly 20 years, I think we'd chafe in constant company—he's an idealist to the point of completely eschewing realism, which I don't know that I could deal with. He's not the relationship type, anyway, even if I did live local to him. As far as I know, he hasn't had an actual "girlfriend" in seven years, maybe even more—just fleeting liaisons. I just waaaaannnnt him, so bad, and he's so. far. away. Ugh.

Oh, snap, he just messaged me. It's like he heard me typing about him. Tee-hee. He said that he also flashed back to being young, even getting a little nervous. I wrote him back, but he hasn't responded yet. I'm willing to bet he's working, and that was a smoke break.

Ah, well. It's late(ish), I'm tired, and if I go to sleep now, I'll wake up bright and early and be able to clean the house and get real pretty before Rider is free. I'm also due for my routine STD testing at the free place, a must in poly-world, so I'm going to try to fit that in tomorrow as well.

I can't wait to see Rider tomorrow and get his tasty kisses. All these other boys are driving me crazy, but he always makes me feel right at home.
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Old 08-02-2014, 06:04 PM
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...I'd either wing-woman him or be bi-girl bait for whichever of those the situation applied to.
YES! Love doing this for my boys! (I also sometimes act as "girl translator" - they can be so clueless...)

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He told me that I'm the most awesome chick ever, because he'd never imagined that he would not only be confessing crushes to a lover, but also get encouraged and assisted as a result. I think we each found each other just when we were ready—I want to help him make all his dreams come true, even the sexy-times with other people dreams, and he wants to do the same for me. It really is the best life—and the best relationship!—ever. What a keeper!
For the WIN! Sounds like you have tons going on and are in a great place. Best Wishes!
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