FigNewtonian
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I'll take Babs over Emma Thompson any day of the week and twice on Sundays — sometimes more than twice...
I wonder if you see one as being primary ( is that language helpful?)
if FN still sexually desires his wife or if that has changed
(I am assuming some shared feelings from years of being unwanted) has FN revisited any issues of grief and loss seeing things be so different
what do you plan to tell our son & family, and practical things like Christmas and holidays.
The vast majority of the people will see a standard divorce — we drifted apart has been the boilerplate we've offered. They will see us being very close friends — nothing more. Very, very, very few people know what's really going on.
Holidays are an interesting question. Being a child of divorce I'm accustomed to split holidays and alternating years. The mechanics of that are kind of muddy right now, but we have time.
You know, even if people were paying attention (and they generally don't), very few pay enough attention to catch you out at anything. And, of those, a good number just don't want to know.
As for holidays and other events, don't be too hard on yourself. You're going to make a few missteps here and there - not realize that Easter is a bigger deal in one household than another. Some folks make birthdays into big events while others barely acknowledge them. You'll get a feel for it as you go along.