Girly weekend was a blast. So much talking, so much drinking, some sight seeing - it has been years since I went to watch the dam opening and fill the rapids at Aratiatia. I was able to tell her a lot about what I've learned here. She got her head around the idea of cordial metamours by likening it to the relationship she has with her (hubby's) kids' mother (hubby's ex). Sweet, yep, that's a good enough analogy for me
Of course, the kids are in a 50% custody situation, and I don't really see that in my future, but life is full of surprises. She asked me about, if this is what I want, would I allow the same openness for Adam. Gosh, of course, I guess it's a fair question, but to me it's never actually been a question. This isn't what I *want* exactly, it's who I *am* - but I'll get better at articulating it over time too.
We talked about how she (and her hubby) have made the conscious decision to walk away from any potential new connections. She doesn't deny they might happen, but that she'd actively reject them. I am the opposite. We are best friends, and can respect each other's choices without condemnation.
So we headed in our own directions (she lives north, I live south) on Sunday morning after watching our national rugby team (the All Blacks) win the World Cup over our arch nemeses, the Wallabies (Australia). It was an intensively defensive game most of the time with only really a couple of thrilling moments when someone got away and scored. But we won, and made history by being the first team to defend the Cup successfully.
And so I went to some
mineral pools for a soak, and oh how lovely that was. I came away with an almost physical high from just floating in the hot water. Then I comparatively slowly, and with sightseeing stops and detours, made my way back down the country and home. Bliss.
Tonight my plans were cancelled, so I went to the gym. 40 mins solid on the bike. I want stamina damnit lol. I can't run with a bad back/hips, but I can cycle, and the cycling I think loosens and strengthens the hips so I'm finding I can walk at least, after I cycle. But today I just cycled. I'm going to turn that 40 mins into an hour, then into 2 hours. Well, ok, perhaps stick to the 20 min increments. But I want stamina. There is a "race" or just an "I bloody did it" ride that starts and finishes where I was this past weekend. I'll need a year to train at least,
it's looooong. But there are lots of different categories, so I can always pick a shorter ride. Sadly I don't think I'll be able to convince UniverseFan (my online PT) and his sporty lady to switch codes and come and do it as a team thing. And Adam is even less likely to want to spend that much time on a bike. I'll need a support crew anyway
Adam arrives for a visit in less than 3 weeks. I am bursting at the seams!!!!