Oh the tangled webs we weave!!! I feel like I have transported back to grade school. He took my crayon! I'm telling! You made me mad by not playing the way I want to, so I'm taking my ball and going home!!
This whole thing has just gotten rediculous!!! I think my husbands friend is delusional!! He called today expecting my husband to apologize for going to his house while he was having a date night with my husbands girlfriend!! WHAT!! She didn't even know it was a date night!! Friend invited him over the night before and there was like 6 other people there and she invited my husband over again cuz he wasn't there yet. And then his friend accused him of having a dominance play. Supposedly G/f was on D/h's lap and they were kissing. Friend told her to come back over to him, he claims D/H put his hand on her neck, held her down and told friend "she doesn't seem to be complaining." My husband is VERY particular about not touching peoples necks. Myself, his g/f and him have all had issues resulting from being choked and he doesn't do that to ANYONE. Secondly, she's his F'ing girlfriend, so where does your delusional ass get off telling her what to do in the first place!! To top it all off when friend took her home last night, he asked to be her primary and got pissed off when she said no!!! Mr I have a different woman everynight, Mr I won't commit in anyway, Mr love is all a joke!!! This man has me laughing at him, angry at him and confused as all hell all at once!!
After a lot of yelling most him at DH and him at Dh's G/f, he called back and apologized.
Human beings are not objects to be owned or fought over. The sooner people figure this out, the better off we'll all be.
I'm just getting so tired of all the drama.
And sorry to be blunt, warning nc-17 comment ahead-----She must have a vagina made of candy to have all these men creatig all this drama. And DH must be the candy man, cuz he's the only one not acting like he owns her or like she owes him anything. He's treating her like...gasp...a person!!
I can't even believe I'm defending her, but I just find all of this to be so rediculous!!!!
On the plus side, DH is going to set up an account on here. He was nervous at first, he felt he would be stepping into the only place I have to vent, but I don't mind it at all. I have nothing to hide. I tell him every thought that goes through this pretty little foggy brain. And I honestly think it may help things. We are both writers and tend to express better that way. So it may give us a little more understanding of the other.
Which brings me to what I wanted to tell Sage:
I write e-mails A LOT. While I do appreaciate face to face, I express much better in an e-mail. I usualy will send her one to address the issue, we'll talk in person to further cover it and reach resolution, and I'll e-mail again to follow up. I write to my husband all the time as well. I don't handle embarrassment well, so when I am wanting to discuss things that may lead to it, or I'm not sure how to bring up, he gets mail, then comes and talks to me. That's just how I work. I HATE the phone. I rarely call my own mother, I e-mail her too, and aside from my husband, she's my best friend. yes some things are better said over the phone if in person isn't possible, but writing allows you to think about what you say, and working to find a resolution, instead of reacting and fixing nothing.
I unfortunatly can't see where you are coming from, if your DH get's a g/h closer to home. We were talking poly long before this whole mess happened, my issues stem from how it came about, not what it is. So I am supportive of him having a g/f. She helps fill the needs I don't, we are actualy very similar, so maybe we just provide him with an over abundance of fulfilled needs
And I myself have had an issue with monogomy, until DH came along. While I never cheated, I always wondered why we are expected to only love one person? But I encourage you to listen to your heart and TALK. Communication is sooooooo very important in any relationship, even more so in the poly world. Be you and own it. No one has a right to complain when you are being true to you.
Hope everyone enjoys their weekend!! My wifes husband is on leave for the weekend and it is a surrogate moms b-day so we will be partying pretty hard all weekend! Wishes for a drama free weekend would be fabulous