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Old 08-18-2017, 02:28 AM
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Sending big hugs, a shoulder and an ear. <3
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Old 08-18-2017, 02:45 PM
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*hugs* Kevin, I'm so sorry that you're going through unhappy stuff. I hope it works out ok, and soon. Sending "love/peace/calm" (my god I'm such a hippie) vibes in your general direction!
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Old 08-18-2017, 04:38 PM
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I'm late to this but have all the internet hugs you want. Hope things are better.
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Old 08-18-2017, 05:17 PM
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Thanks guys. I guess the truth is it's not the end of the world, I'll be fine. Nothing has changed that anyone would notice, neither Brother-Husband nor Snowbunny knows anything's wrong, and I'd just as soon keep it that way. I'm just disgusted at myself, my self-confidence took a hit, I don't trust myself, I don't trust my luck. Hopefully with the passing of time, some of that trust will return. I feel slightly better after getting some sleep. Don't have as much of a headache today.

Again, thank you for your hugs and well-wishes and whatnot. Feels good to know I'm not alone here.
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Old 08-18-2017, 05:26 PM
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Old 08-18-2017, 05:29 PM
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Thanks, man.
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Old 08-19-2017, 08:08 AM
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I know you have worked to improve how you cope with life. I hope your hard won skills help you to go easy on yourself for whatever mistake you may have made. You are kind and helpful to everyone here.

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Old 08-19-2017, 07:37 PM
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Thanks, Leetah. Sometimes I think to myself, "How will I feel about this a week from now?" and the answer is often, "I probably won't even remember this." Helps to put things in perspective.
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Old 08-22-2017, 02:42 AM
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Glad you have some perspective, Kevin! I will remember to ask myself that question ("What will I think about this in a week/month/year?") next time I am being entirely too hard on myself. Good advice!
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Old 08-22-2017, 05:14 PM
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It has been good advice for me too. Even if it doesn't take the pain away, it gives me some consolation, and helps me realize that I'll be alright. It's a way of reversing that downward spiral.
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