I do not know for sure how receptive she might be. She has opened up alot, sexually in recent years, at least talking about what she feels. Stuff that would never have come out in any situation is a fairly common topic now. I am going to ask her to listen to or read some of these books. What does one do if the discussions fail? I have suppressed these feelings forever, told myself it was sinful and vehemently avoided females and going out with guys where females might make me think naughty thoughts. I'm not living that way anymore. She knows I am attracted to other girls and if given permission would be with some of them. I'm also not going to cheat on her. I love her too much to not be with her.