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Old 04-21-2014, 11:00 PM
LeighW LeighW is offline
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Ottawa-area, Ontario
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Smile Hello from the Ottawa area :-)

Thought I'd say a quick hello to everyone :-)

The Mr and I are pretty new to this type of thing. I'm not really sure I'd say we're "poly", but we do have an open relationship.

I'll admit I laughed my butt off reading about all the unicorn comments on this site. I'd have to say 3/4 of the couples we've talked to are looking for just that, and I'm happy to know that I'm not the only one who sometimes finds it a bit annoying, lol
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Old 04-22-2014, 03:43 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Pennsyl-tucky
Posts: 1,965

Hello and welcome!

Enjoy your reading and time here.

I view "open" and "poly" as degrees along the "ethical non-monogamy" spectrum. However you do (or don't) label yourselves, I hope you find points of interest here as you proceed upon your personal journey.

JaneQ(Me): poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (25+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (7+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost ex-lover-friend, ex-FWBs to SLeW, friends with MrS; live-in with Katniss
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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Old 04-22-2014, 07:43 PM
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kdt26417 kdt26417 is offline
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Yelm, Washington
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Greetings LeighW,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Yeah adding a "not-very-important HBB to an all-important married couple" seems to be *the* definition of poly nowadays. People have no clue how many shades and configurations of poly can and do exist. While the "add a third" model isn't necessarily doomed to failure, we've seen a lot of cases here where fail it did. It certainly doesn't bode will if the "third" person is objectified as an "extra ingredient to spice up our marriage."

I hope you enjoy your time on our site and find both questions and answers.
Kevin T., "official greeter"


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