Hi,
I think I need help. Two (of my three) partners just broke up with me.
I'm a little concerned about my emotional and psychological well-being. The weight of this situation hasn't hit me yet, but I need to talk to someone.
One partner (of 6-7 months) broke things off on Friday. Another partner (of 1 1/2 years) said yesterday that she wanted a break.
Both partners have also developed a friendship since I've been seeing them. The first I've been seeing for only 6-7 months actually has been spending more time with my other partner than I have lately.
This is further complicated because they both go behind each other and say little things to me about each other, and I recently found them both giving me conflicting information about something. It was in relation to events that involved the partner I've been seeing longer of the two.
I've been strained lately because I've determined that one of them is lying to me, but I have no way of knowing who is telling the truth.
I was also coming to a conclusion that I should probably break things off with the girl I've only been seeing for 6-7 months as something has never felt quite right with our relationship, and I don't feel our connection is as strong. And so it was a shocking yet somewhat relieving turn of events that she broke up with me first on Friday.
For my other partner (of 1 1/2 years) to want to cease being romantically involved isn't entirely surprising considering that when the girl (of 6-7 months) said something recently that triggered me being upset with my other partner, I was so upset that I couldn't speak to her. Communication is very important to me, and I do feel that silent treatment is unacceptable, but I was unable to speak to my partner (of 1 1/2 years) and kind of shut her out for like a week. When I get mad I seem to react by compartmentalizing my feelings and contemplating my emotions in isolation.
But after a week I finally confronted her about the thing that my other partner said. She denied it was true. Then on Friday I asked my other partner to verify what she said previously, but she claims to not remember what was said. I can only either trust my memory or assume that I maybe misheard something. But assuming the initial event was as I remember it, then one of them is lying to me, and I'm still bothered by that.
But the way events have unfolded have made things more troubling and confusing.
Anyway, I don't usually do the forum thing, and I'm not sure what I expect, especially since I don't want to divulge more details.
My imminent concern is that I know I've cared for these two people immensely, and the magnitude of my feelings hasn't hit me yet since I seem to be blocking things out as a kind of defense mechanism.
Still, some words and/or advice may be appreciated.
Thank you
I think I need help. Two (of my three) partners just broke up with me.
I'm a little concerned about my emotional and psychological well-being. The weight of this situation hasn't hit me yet, but I need to talk to someone.
One partner (of 6-7 months) broke things off on Friday. Another partner (of 1 1/2 years) said yesterday that she wanted a break.
Both partners have also developed a friendship since I've been seeing them. The first I've been seeing for only 6-7 months actually has been spending more time with my other partner than I have lately.
This is further complicated because they both go behind each other and say little things to me about each other, and I recently found them both giving me conflicting information about something. It was in relation to events that involved the partner I've been seeing longer of the two.
I've been strained lately because I've determined that one of them is lying to me, but I have no way of knowing who is telling the truth.
I was also coming to a conclusion that I should probably break things off with the girl I've only been seeing for 6-7 months as something has never felt quite right with our relationship, and I don't feel our connection is as strong. And so it was a shocking yet somewhat relieving turn of events that she broke up with me first on Friday.
For my other partner (of 1 1/2 years) to want to cease being romantically involved isn't entirely surprising considering that when the girl (of 6-7 months) said something recently that triggered me being upset with my other partner, I was so upset that I couldn't speak to her. Communication is very important to me, and I do feel that silent treatment is unacceptable, but I was unable to speak to my partner (of 1 1/2 years) and kind of shut her out for like a week. When I get mad I seem to react by compartmentalizing my feelings and contemplating my emotions in isolation.
But after a week I finally confronted her about the thing that my other partner said. She denied it was true. Then on Friday I asked my other partner to verify what she said previously, but she claims to not remember what was said. I can only either trust my memory or assume that I maybe misheard something. But assuming the initial event was as I remember it, then one of them is lying to me, and I'm still bothered by that.
But the way events have unfolded have made things more troubling and confusing.
Anyway, I don't usually do the forum thing, and I'm not sure what I expect, especially since I don't want to divulge more details.
My imminent concern is that I know I've cared for these two people immensely, and the magnitude of my feelings hasn't hit me yet since I seem to be blocking things out as a kind of defense mechanism.
Still, some words and/or advice may be appreciated.
Thank you