ClosetPoly
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Huge success. Happy poly coming home from a very good first night with boyfriend, with even more to give and needs to have filled = even happier me.
That's all really cool. She's loving you, loving him, then coming back and loving you again. Love all around. That's the poly goal. I am so happy for you 2(3) to have come to this point. Awww!
I am always saddened and perturbed when I read here something like, the husband will say, my wife has a new BF, they are deep in NRE. She's so into him, she won't fuck me, and if she does, it feels like pity sex, or maintenance sex.
So you've got ERI (established relationship intimacy)
I like this! It's really useful! Did you see this somewhere else? Or start it yourself?
Jasmine
I made it up myself! I'm a cunning linguist!
it's the times when they just melt together in NRE, needing to hold each other and just cling. That is what makes me feel replaced
I made it up myself! I'm a cunning linguist!
Closetpoly - The way I worked around that with my husband (because our NRE caused him a lot of insecurity and jealousy at first) was to hold back the touchy-feely stuff when we are all together or to try and include him. I try to save the more tender, 'gazing into your soul moments' for times when the bf and I are alone. Things will even out over time so I'm told...
... the real real issue, who am I?
Yes, "who are you?" as the caterpillar asked. Many people lose track of this in a marriage and especially after having kids. It's great to really get reacquainted with that journey. Poly can force you to answer that question... and it's fun to find out! Treat yourself as your own primary, take yourself out on dates, see friends one on one or in groups without your partner, read, work out, watch a movie or TV show you know she wouldn't care for, do engrossing hobbies, volunteer work, etc etc.