SEASONEDpolyAgain
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Would it work for you if a newish date said that they need a certain time commitment from you (say 1 date per week) from now (3 dates in) if you want them to keep the door open for a entangled relationship?
The other alternative is that you do not commit to that and then they keep you as a casual partner at most forever?
Have you decided by approx 3 dates in what shape this relationship will ultimately take?
I was speaking to a potential date/acquaintance and it seemed like she gives people that question pretty early on. At first, I thought she just establishes that she wants people who are at least open to entanglement but she wants to know quite early on that SHE specifically is still in the running and she wants that indicated by a commitment to a regular contact schedule.
I think this might be why people consistently seem to betray her expectations. I think she might be forcing a commitment out of them too soon and then, like most connections, early on, they realize a glaring incompatibility and break it off or try to simmer it down.
She's trying to avoid a situation where they don't have the time to develop intimacy seemingly, and has had some experiences where someone expected partnership from her while not giving that level of companionship back which I get too. But it all seems... heavy...
What's your thoughts on it?
The other alternative is that you do not commit to that and then they keep you as a casual partner at most forever?
Have you decided by approx 3 dates in what shape this relationship will ultimately take?
I was speaking to a potential date/acquaintance and it seemed like she gives people that question pretty early on. At first, I thought she just establishes that she wants people who are at least open to entanglement but she wants to know quite early on that SHE specifically is still in the running and she wants that indicated by a commitment to a regular contact schedule.
I think this might be why people consistently seem to betray her expectations. I think she might be forcing a commitment out of them too soon and then, like most connections, early on, they realize a glaring incompatibility and break it off or try to simmer it down.
She's trying to avoid a situation where they don't have the time to develop intimacy seemingly, and has had some experiences where someone expected partnership from her while not giving that level of companionship back which I get too. But it all seems... heavy...
What's your thoughts on it?