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Old 02-21-2019, 12:13 AM
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This is a bit of a read but has useful cautions for people getting into non-monogamy. Mostly "Don't beat yourself up, or allow others to beat you up, if polyamory is not all milk and honey for you".

Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy-

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Old 02-21-2019, 12:33 AM
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Looks like a good article.
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Thanks, Leetah - this is a really good article. I'm going to add it to my reference list.

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Old 02-21-2019, 03:17 PM
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Definitely worth reading, Leetah. Thank you for posting.
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Old 02-22-2019, 03:19 AM
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I can't say I agree with all of it- I definitely think that relationships involve skills, and partner selection is also a skill.

But some useful concepts.
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Worth reading? Yes, but there is a lot to sift through to get to the meat. I found myself going WTF a lot, followed by "Oh THAT'S what they meant."

And yeah, relationshipping takes skill. To say it doesn't, but to go on and say it requires certain skills was one of those WTF moments.
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