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Old 02-19-2019, 04:55 PM
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I forgot to mention, you should probably have a conversation about possible safer-sex agreements.
Which also raises the question (since she's obviously of child-bearing age) of what happens if a pregnancy results (oops's happen). Not the sort of conversation you and she want to have as a surprise.
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Old 02-25-2019, 04:14 PM
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Which also raises the question (since she's obviously of child-bearing age) of what happens if a pregnancy results (oops's happen). Not the sort of conversation you and she want to have as a surprise.
The OP's spouse is a transgender woman, therefore can't get pregnant. But this is something to be discussed if there is a uterus and ovaries intact in a ciswoman of child-bearing age.
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Old 02-26-2019, 04:50 PM
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Which also raises the question (since she's obviously of child-bearing age) of what happens if a pregnancy results (oops's happen). Not the sort of conversation you and she want to have as a surprise.
My spouse actually had a vasectomy a year or so ago, and according to the doctor "shooting blanks", so I am not worried about any pregnancy scares. I am the one and only "baby mama" in this scenario.

Part of the agreement for this was that safer sex is used since we haven't utilized a condom in a long time being married and no longer capable of having children (vasectomy + birth control = no monthly scares). Any sexual relations outside of the marriage will definitely include condoms and we've both agreed to that. I have no intention of having sex outside of the marriage anytime soon, so I'm sure we'll talk about that tiny chance of pregnancy when the time comes but as far as I'm concerned, my baby box is closed down for business lol.

We just officially opened the marriage up this past weekend, so I'm currently acting as the cheerleader in any potential dates my spouse gets. So far she's had two successful dates (same person) and one catfish haha. Trial and error I suppose

I'll definitely keep everyone updated as we navigate these new waters. I am excited for us.
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Old 02-26-2019, 07:33 PM
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Sounds like it's going well so far. I'm glad to hear that. Yes there is a certain amount of trial and error, not much getting around that.
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My spouse actually had a vasectomy a year or so ago, and according to the doctor "shooting blanks", so I am not worried about any pregnancy scares. I am the one and only "baby mama" in this scenario.

Part of the agreement for this was that safer sex is used since we haven't utilized a condom in a long time being married and no longer capable of having children (vasectomy + birth control = no monthly scares). Any sexual relations outside of the marriage will definitely include condoms and we've both agreed to that. I have no intention of having sex outside of the marriage anytime soon, so I'm sure we'll talk about that tiny chance of pregnancy when the time comes but as far as I'm concerned, my baby box is closed down for business lol.
Oh haha since Rye is a transwoman, I didn't think about her getting a ciswoman pregnant. My bad! I guess there are transwomen not on female hormone therapy and androgen blockers, who still enjoy using their genitals to penetrate a ciswoman's vagina... My partner is a transwoman, and she was new to being on hormone therapy when we met, and we did do intercourse, she penetrated me. I kinda forgot. Because after a while her hormones shrank her "penis," and she stopped ejaculating. And I'm sure her ejaculate was sperm-free for a while before that.

She would use a condom if someone wanted to penetrate her anally. I have my male partners use condoms with me, unless and until conditions are right for fluid bonding.

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We just officially opened the marriage up this past weekend, so I'm currently acting as the cheerleader in any potential dates my spouse gets. So far she's had two successful dates (same person) and one catfish haha. Trial and error I suppose

I'll definitely keep everyone updated as we navigate these new waters. I am excited for us.
It can be difficult for transpeople to get dates... I have some friends who are trans or non-binary and some have difficulty finding non-transphobic people to date. It also depends on whether they are gay, lesbian, bi or straight in their preference.

One more thing that comes to mind: You strongly associated sex and kink in your OP. Some people do not associate sex with kink. So pregnancy (or STDs for that matter) wouldn't necessarily even be a potential risk, as JackDarlene was concerned about.
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