BoringGuy
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Dangit BG, you beat me to it!@!
I better quit while i'm ahead or risk being cast into the Realm of Thud to wail and gnash my teeth for all eternity and forever.
Dangit BG, you beat me to it!@!
Umm, can we get back on topic?
That said I read somewhere that people with Aspergers have a difficult time letting go of something that offended them (in this case me feeling broken). So this wound may just take time to heal.
As for the rest, everyone is right. I have to do me and listen to what it is I want. Maybe I do want a relationship, maybe I just want to be single and have friends. Like I stated before, I'm not going to force love. If it does happen down the line, good. If not, no big deal. I could even find that a relationship is not what I want.
At the end of the day, I have to live my life.
Who said it wasn't okay? I didn't even say it want okay to disagree with my sweeping statement. You'd be wrong of course, but you're welcome to voice any rebuttals.Well, I'm curious about that too, so can I get the PM? Specifically, why is it OK for an Aspie to make a stereotypical generalization about "the neurotypicals", but if "a neurotypical" did the same about Aspies, it would blow the house off the foundation?
This is just about the worst thing you could say to someone on the autistic spectrum. This shows me that you have a painfully limited idea of what it is like to have autism. Reminds me of the people who don't mind when your autism helps them because of your ability to become fixated in your focus on something, but won't try and change their language to make their intentions clearer or do anything else that might help you because they don't believe you need that level of support. Ie you can only be autistic when it's convenient for me.It isn't clear to me - the person who said this to you, are you in love with that person? Are you "in a relationship" with this person? Or was it like, some casual acquaintance at a party type-of-thing? Because I could see if it was someone you were emotionally invested in who was pushing your buttons. But if it's a relative stranger... just fuck 'em. In the classical sense, not the literal sense.
It surprises me that you would agree with this. I love your posts because you say more or less exactly what you mean. You don't tiptoe in case someone gets offended. I might not agree but it's not coated in butthurt and the bitterness so it isn't tainted and skewered by you pretending to be objective. If anything,i thought you would empathise with autistic people on this.Dangit BG, you beat me to it!@!
DarkDuality said:That said I read somewhere that people with Aspergers have a difficult time letting go of something that offended them (in this case me feeling broken). So this wound may just take time to heal.
DarkDuality said:As for the rest, everyone is right. I have to do me and listen to what it is I want. Maybe I do want a relationship, maybe I just want to be single and have friends. Like I stated before, I'm not going to force love. If it does happen down the line, good. If not, no big deal. I could even find that a relationship is not what I want. At the end of the day, I have to live my life.
It surprises me that you would agree with this. I love your posts because you say more or less exactly what you mean. You don't tiptoe in case someone gets offended. I might not agree but it's not coated in butthurt and the bitterness so it isn't tainted and skewered by you pretending to be objective. If anything,i thought you would empathise with autistic people on this.
This is just about the worst thing you could say to someone on the autistic spectrum. This shows me that you have a painfully limited idea of what it is like to have autism. Reminds me of the people who don't mind when your autism helps them because of your ability to become fixated in your focus on something, but won't try and change their language to make their intentions clearer or do anything else that might help you because they don't believe you need that level of support. Ie you can only be autistic when it's convenient for me.
You have no idea how many coping strategies I employ whilst answering on any forum, including this one. If I said what I really think, exactly how I think it, I would have been banned on the first day.
You are of course welcome to ignore my posts, I suspect you are already compelled to read them though and will continue to do so whilst muttering under your virtual breath about how utterly insufferable I am. But don't worry, we might have great angry sex one day, let's stay focused on that, eh, soldier?
But this gives me little solace. The more I read about it, the worse I feel. The studies just seem to reinforce that my love is broken. It's almost made me break down and cry, and my mind is tearing apart.
It feels like I'm being forced to go into a relationship style that does not feel right to me.
This is just about the worst thing you could say to someone on the autistic spectrum.
This shows me that you have a painfully limited idea of what it is like to have autism.