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Old 08-26-2011, 03:13 AM
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"Contribution = commitment
Commitment = impact
Impact = importance
Importance determines primary or secondary"

Thinking more about this primary/secondary thing. This is a quote from Mono, posting in the General Discussion board about a year ago. It makes a lot of sense to me. It also makes me wonder.

If I'm committed to my relationship with Gia (not wiling to compromise it or let it go unless it radically changes or unless I have some compelling reason to move far away), if I'm contributing to childcare, if I think of her and her family as my family... am I becoming something more like primary to her? And does SHE think of it in at all the same way, or even see that as a remote, far-future possibility? I don't think I really needed one more thing to chew over, and this is pretty damn academic right now, but it's got me thinking.
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