Help - my wife is moving too fast!
My wife and I have been married for about a year now (after 4+ years of dating). The topic of open relationships has come up before and we each found it an interesting idea, but quickly decided it wasn't for us.
Now my wife met another man, has strong feelings for him and wants to start a poly-relationship with him/me. She first told me about it a week ago an I've been trying to learn in seriousness about polyamory. Frankly it's really hard to keep an open mind when your right in the middle of the situation.
We've started talking about boundaries and I've asked her to keep the physical stuff out of bounds until I can learn anti-jealousy coping tools. Now she thinks I'm trying to control her life and has even threatened to leave me. I love my wife a lot but she's going way too fast for me. Help!