There is continual talk here about one partner can't satisfy all of one's "needs" which is the motivation to add partners. I was looking at it from that stand point. Relationships are a lot of work and adding intimate relationships the work load doesn't increase by the partner it's way higher its X3 or 4...
If Z doesn't relate well with men in couples setting how he going to relate to the guy picking you up for a date ......this is going to be a huge struggle. You what they say pay back a bitch.
I'm still legally married but separated. She has for several months asked to try to repair the relationship ....meet ...spend time .....which looks a lot like dating to me. Not sure I can do that. She is literally and figuratively a mess ...its very very sad.