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Old 08-11-2011, 09:04 AM
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I'd like to ask participants here this.:

Are you anxious about the loss of your loved one/s?

Let's answer on a numerical scale.

No, not at all - 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 - Intenesely, yes!
2 months into mono/poly relationship, me being mono, I'll have to say still an 8, but my conscious understanding of the reason has changed dramatically. In the beginning, I was pretty much a constant 8-10, feeling very threatened and insecure about my partner's new relationship. That has changed, I feel much safer and secure with the situation, but I still have too much of a dependency on my partner. This is however something I am consciously working on, and it's slowly getting better. I am at times really happy for her, and the love she experiences. At other times I grieve the loss of what we had, but I also celebrate that loss of stagnation and stoicity (is that even a word?). But anxiety? Yes, I has it. :-/
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