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Old 08-05-2011, 07:03 PM
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I did. He recommended that I go with a dark red in future.
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Old 08-05-2011, 07:04 PM
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i've got tangerine toes now...
thank God there are choices other than red or pink now....
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Old 08-05-2011, 07:04 PM
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I did. He recommended that I go with a dark red in future.
Make sure you follow that advice.
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Old 08-05-2011, 07:07 PM
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yeah, but purple covers the dark blue bruise when i insert foot in mouth...and bite down...

sorry if i have offended anyone...M
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Old 08-05-2011, 07:10 PM
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Now I feel the urge to create a thread dedicated to painted toes. Where's my camera....?
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Old 08-05-2011, 07:26 PM
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How important is self esteem in the creation of healthy, loving relationships?

Very important - without healthy self esteem, I think healthy relationships are nearly impossible. In my experience, when one person has self esteem, or even self confidence, issues, then he or she can sometimes have the tendency to regard the other person in the relationship as the support structure - holding the first person (and by default, the relationship) together in happiness or in sadness. This is often times too much for a relationship to bear, even a healthy one. This is also somewhat co-dependent.

How is self esteem furthered where it is insufficient?

Sometimes, when self esteem is insufficient, it can be furthered by words of kindness from lovers or friends. It can also be furthered by simple actions of those around you. If I am having a bad day, sometimes the smallest comment by my BF of how good my hair looks (completely superficial) can boost my self esteem and get me thinking how things are really not that bad. Or I can just get a hug from a friend for no reason, and I feel like I can face the world more forcefully - I am not alone; my friends and lovers are around me and with me, even when they are not "with" me.

On a scale of 0 -10, with 0 being the least and 10 being the most of healthy self esteem, where is your average placement on the scale over the last year?

7

Has your placement on that scale changed in recent time?

Yes

If yes, why/how do you think it has changed?

I have been in therapy for the past several years - overcoming baggage from my divorce, dealing with my bipolar, and just discussing everyday issues with my family and relationship. Within the last year, I have begun to have "epiphanies" I guess you could call them - I am finally figuring out (at the age of 34) who I really am. No frills, no fancy party bows or decorations, just me. And I am finally beginning to see that it is just right, and just great, and it doesn't need to fit some mold or some preconceived notion of society or the "moral majority" or even people who I though were my friends. It fits me, it is me, and I like who I am and who I have become, and I am comfortable in my own skin. It is pretty awesome.

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Old 08-05-2011, 07:38 PM
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Now I feel the urge to create a thread dedicated to painted toes. Where's my camera....?
I've never in my life painted my toenails, and you folks are tempting me! Of course, there'd be no point in doing it if I were not to wear sandals and go out in public with my bright toenails, which is a terrifying thought, and probably why it would be good for my soul.

On a related topic, my poor toenails are terribly neglected. I treat them badly, frankly, and they are not looking so good. They're cracked, somewhat and badly pedicured (an understatement). Perhaps it is time to take better care of my toes! Thanks.
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Old 08-05-2011, 07:43 PM
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It is pretty awesome.
Indeed it is! I'm so happy for/with you.
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Old 08-05-2011, 08:20 PM
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Now I feel the urge to create a thread dedicated to painted toes. Where's my camera....?
are you kidding? do you really paint your toes crazy colors too?
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Old 08-05-2011, 08:32 PM
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go on, River, paint your toes! pick a color to match the bright, flowing skirt you will wear...
manicure...pedicure...pawdicure as my dogs do in the morning...all good for the soul
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