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Old 08-01-2011, 06:44 PM
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Old 08-01-2011, 06:54 PM
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hehe hell no, and I "sure like the bone."
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Old 08-01-2011, 07:12 PM
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I posted too soon. She got a response via text that simply said 'hello'. So my guess is that he wants to do the right thing and not be the guy who broke us up. But he also wants her. So he is struggling with how to reconcile those emotions. Will be interesting to see how this plays out. She is focusing on herself for now (good thing I think) and has learned a little about their relationship through this. Stay tuned. Maybe i will write a screenplay from all this drama.
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Old 08-01-2011, 07:25 PM
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I hope that this helps her to see how wonderful you are. I wish you luck while you guys sort through things and that you are both happy in the end as well as the kids. We have a new potential so we shall see what happens over the next couple of days. [Staying tuned]
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Old 08-01-2011, 10:50 PM
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Maybe i will write a screenplay from all this drama.
I'll produce it, but only if I can direct.


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Old 08-03-2011, 07:53 PM
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I think Einstein said insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I think I am insane. Here is where we are. She has realized that I am really her friend and the person she loves and wants to be with. I think right now she believes that. Of course this may change. She also realized that T is not a relationship kind of guy. He is too immature to deal with that. But she does enjoy the fun of having sex with him. So she wants to keep seeing him (but only when I travel, not when I am home). And she only wants sex and easy going fun. And she says she will never male me feel like I am not the priority. That she was stupid and made a mistake. So I get to keep traveling and doing my job, she gets fun during the week, I come home to a happy wife who sees me in a better light, and we don't have to break up the family and the marriAge. Isn't this where i started? Lol.
So the insane person that wants to try again. With one assumed difference - that she has the capacity to be honest. I also told her that if she wanted to do this that I want to re-establish contact with my female friend who ibwas talking to about all this. She is not a fAn of that idea lol. So we will see what happens there
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Old 08-03-2011, 07:56 PM
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You could always go with the "three strikes & ur out" approach.
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Old 08-03-2011, 07:56 PM
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Well, you have come full circle. Let's see how it goes this time. I really hope that she means what she says and that you can be happy as you deserve. I thinkthat if you can compromise with her having sex with T and whatnot that she should be able to don the same with you talking to your friend.
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Old 08-04-2011, 06:47 AM
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So essentially you are not together as a couple except on paper, each get to fuck other people and smile sweetly at each other? That isn't full circle it seems to me....

Just a heads up here. I am wondering if you have read any other threads here. Relationships that are struggling don't have the best results when another person is added. Not to mention it is really kinda mean to bring someone in who doesn't fully understand that there is shit hitting the fan and they are just a nice little distraction to the bigger issue that the marriage is falling apart. That person, more often than not, becomes the fall out person and gets hurt along the way. Is that where this is going do you think?

I am predicting... perhaps wrongly, but here it goes... that you will become intimately involved with this other woman. Fall in love, be NRE crazy all over her, get some needs met around being touched, loved, respected, cared for, cherished etc etc, be head over heels while your wife continues to fuck this guy cause its fun....

I suspect that your wife will lose it! I suspect that she will struggle seeing you so happy when her world was so perfect with you going off to work to pay he bills and take care of her while she stays at home fucking. I suspect that she will not like you taking on your own life at the expense of hers.

Of course I could be wrong I look forward to finding out I am.

Really, just gunna tell it like it is here.... take it or leave it... I think that you all need to drop the guy that is now seen (as was seen pretty obviously at the beginning) as not being worth the effort except for sex and get about FIXING what you have made out of your marriage.

I think she needs to get a job, or at least direct that energy she has for this guy elsewhere in her life that is of value and that boosts her interest and enthusiasm for life. Boosts her self esteem. I think she needs to think about why she is so bored with her life that she needs to have a lover rather than getting about DOING something useful beyond caring for the kids...

In this day in age being a house wife isn't enough I don't think for most women.... we are smart and under utilized most of the time and what drives me crazy is we do it to ourselves by thinking that "wouldn't it be fun to stay at home with the kids... oh, such an easy life. la la la " Well it isn't really I don't think because boredom sets in it seems and women start going crazy with it.... instead of changing their lives so as to be less bored, they do things like have crazy sex while their husbands are away. Only to feel as empty as they did before.... and on top of that, foolish.

I have a strong opinion here don't I. Well, I know something about this. I said that already didn't I
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Old 08-04-2011, 10:18 AM
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Well redpepper, i was thinking the same thing, but you put it in such better detail than i would have. And i didn't see any typos! But its early & i haven't had coffee yet.
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