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Old 07-20-2011, 02:55 AM
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Default UPDATE: for those following "Will you be my husband's girlfriend"

Last night brought about a whole shrew of gear changes!!! All for the good. I was chatting with a friend of ours (female). We were just chatting, nothing serious, just enjoying visiting with one another and catching up. Well, things just took a natural direction towards poly talk. I opened up and told her that J and I are going poly. She loved the idea!! She said, "You know, I'm really not surprised. I could see this really working for you guys."

I don't think I could have breathed a bigger sigh of relief!! From there, the conversation took another turn, but still following the poly lines. She thought that J had flirted around with her on several occasions in the past. I assured her, that yes, he indeed had lol. He finds her to be an attractive woman and really has a lot of respect for her. He has wondered what it would be like to be in a relationship with her, but never moved forward with anything because he didn't want to hurt the friendship all the way around and didn't think she would be interested.

Turns out, she is possibly interested!!! She says, "I can really see how this would all work. We're all family anyways, I love you both, I know you guys love me in return. Let me think about it." J is ecstatic!!!! He never thought he had a chance with her so he never sought anything. But then, this naturally flowing conversation flows exactly where he's wondered about all this time. So, she is now thinking about things. If anything, she and I are even closer as friends for opening up like this last night. She is like the sister I have never had! She's single, never been married, no kids, and just a complete doll of a person (inside and out). She said that her biggest concern is that she would be intruding on us, but I assured her that wouldn't be the case. Awwwwwwww, I did not expect this, but I love it!!!!

It's funny how things can just naturally present themselves when you're not even looking. I've already talked to her about moving with us, which she just loves the idea of!! Actually, before these job offers came on the table, we were considering moving to her town in TX and she was planning on becoming roommates with us already. She's having housing problems with her college, so we were going to rent her a room. Now, we may just be living together as a real family, completely open and honest!! She is even possibly willing to transfer colleges to be with us, which is part of what she has to think about. We're actually hoping to get the OK job even more now, because we could still just move to her college town and J could commute back and forth to work, no problems. Then she wouldn't have to transfer schools.

Awwwwww (sorry, I can't stop saying awwww lol), we're all kind of riding on Cloud 9 right now.
Married 12 1/2 years. Female. Straight. New to poly.
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