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Old 07-18-2011, 08:28 PM
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This sort of thing does not make sense to me because (aside from what Imaginary Illusion said about having bigger problems than the 12-hour editing policy) if someone finds and reads it and then you delete it, that doesn't change the fact that they read it. Also, anything that is found in a google search can be read in the google cache for quite some time after ward, so even if you people delete their post from the forum, it could still be found and read.

This brings another interesting phenomenon to mind: people who are afraid of having their posts discovered by the people you're writing about... and afraid that those people will be mad that you wrote about them... But you already think these people are searching for your internet activity on Google. This is quite a convoluted communication dynamic. It sounds sort of stalkerish in a way... Just an observation.
I didnt mean I wanted to delete it AFTER they read it.........that would be silly. Just wanted to know if after a week or so I could delete a post to REMOVE the chance that they would eventually find it *if* they went looking. That's all.
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Old 07-18-2011, 08:30 PM
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I think what I am trying to say is I wanted to be able to freely post, ANONYMOUSLY but giving as much detail as possible. Reason being is that I would LIKE TO AVOID any drama with this. As we all know in this lifestyle and I'm learning feelings can easily get hurt. I am not about that AT ALL.
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Old 07-18-2011, 08:51 PM
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Was this not clear enough advice on how to do that? I think you've done it perfectly fine in what you've posted on the forum already. people aren't going to recognize themselves unless they go looking for specific shit.
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Even if you don't edit or delete, use aliases or initials and don't write identifying details, like place names or specific events, etc.

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As we all know in this lifestyle . . .
Hmmm. What lifestyle?


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Old 07-19-2011, 03:00 AM
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Yes...what lifestyle?
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Old 07-19-2011, 05:28 PM
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Yes...what lifestyle?

The polyamourous lifestyle? Right...no?
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Old 07-19-2011, 09:10 PM
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The polyamourous lifestyle? Right...no?
Okay... can of worms! I linked to this thread in my post, but I guess you missed it.

See: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=9113


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Old 07-19-2011, 09:21 PM
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Follow the link nycindie provided and all will be made clear.
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Old 07-19-2011, 09:49 PM
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Old 07-19-2011, 10:26 PM
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Follow the link nycindie provided and all will be made clear.
or more unclear as it were...
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Old 07-19-2011, 10:39 PM
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or more unclear as it were...
Har-har!!!
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