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Old 07-11-2011, 08:57 PM
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Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
My point is you don't ever have to get there or feel that you should. It sounds like, though he's not being pushy, that's what your husband wants more than you do. There is no need for you to push yourself, either, to get past your own wants and desires in order to do this "right." As a couple you don't have to have threesomes, you don't have to be into the same things, and you don't have to try anything that goes against what makes you comfortable just to please your partner.
Yes, it is something that he desires. But it is also something I desire to discover about myself. I don't know if I would like it or not. I've never taken part in a threesome, so I don't really have an opinion about whether I like it or not. So, I am pushing myself to discover my likes and don't likes. I believe that that is a very healthy thing to do. Otherwise, you just sit stagnant and could be missing out on a lot of fun. So, while yes it is his desire, it is more my desire to discover things about myself. Only then, can I say I know where I stand on an issue or know what I enjoy.
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