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Old 07-07-2011, 04:49 AM
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Default Different Types of Poly

A few months ago, my wife and I agreed to "tryout" an open relationship for six months. We set down a few basic ground rules: (1) our marriage always comes first, (2) be safe, (3) be discreet, (4) if one wants out, we both quit.

I am interested in developing a deep, intimate relationship with another woman. My wife, however, indicated she is more interested in multiple, less serious "flings." She indicated that my having a series of one night stands is not a threat, but the idea of me developing a deep, emotional relationship with another woman was more of a threat to her.

I am beginning to develop a relationship with another woman I know and trust. I feel like this new relationship has enhanced the relationship I have with my wife. I fear, however, that as this new relationship grows, it is a growing concern for my wife. I love both of these women and feel very lucky to have the relationships I have with each, but at the same time I don't want the new relationship to hurt my wife (and our relationship).

By contrast, the new woman's husband has been incredibly supportive, even though he seems to tend toward an approach similar to my wife's (one night stands instead of deep relationships). He even refers to me as his wife's boyfriend.

I know all the advice on this forum has been to take it slow, but I am struggling to figure out how to help my wife with her concerns. How can I help her to better understand that this new relationship is an enhancement, not a replacement, for our relationship.

Any advice?
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