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06-15-2011, 08:43 AM
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So now you only need a sherpa.
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"Resentment destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stems the root of our spiritual disease." "In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper - list people, institutions and principles with whom you are angry. Ask yourself why you are angry." "In most cases it was found out that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships, including sex, were hurt or threatened. We were sore, burnt-up." Alcoholics Anonymous, 64-65. 
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#182
06-21-2011, 02:13 AM
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I like lying less!
Mr. A visited his family today. I'm not sure how it came up, but he told his parents kinda sorta about me and Indigo.
Well, it was one plausible "scenario" we'd thought of to explain our living arrangements. He told them that Indigo and I live together. That he's my ex, and the breakup was amicable, but we bought the house together when we were dating. And that we live together because it's financially beneficial. He told them that he and Indigo get along well and have the same sense of humour, and that the three of us hang out. They were actually okay with this. His mom said that if our (my and Indigo's) relationship works for us, who were they to judge?  This is better than I was expecting. They are nice people, but more judgmental than I'm comfy with. The family also tends to be quite critical of who is doing what, working where, dating who, etc. to the point that Mr. A was happy his cousin had met his fianceé online because it paved the way for us. Indigo did point out that broken up and living together was quite different from married and dating their son, but still ... if they hadn't been okay with this scenario, then they certainly wouldn't be alright with the truth. I still feel crummy for lying, but it's not my choice, really. At least it's less lying.
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06-21-2011, 03:15 AM
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06-21-2011, 04:07 AM
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It's sometimes such a fine fine line with the lying. :-/
I'm a big one for being completely honest. I HATE lying and other than that I suck at it too. LOL But then I have a world where I don't have to explain anything to anybody. My mom is old and we don't talk about the specifics of my relationship with my husband. I don't have anyone to explain anything to... but then I don't have family I share days and holidays with either. My m-in-law most likely doesn't know but she knows her son and I doubt she'd be surprised. We just haven't been in the position to HAVE to explain anything yet. Long story short (sheesh), I understand where you're coming from.
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#185
06-27-2011, 01:43 AM
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Fantastic weekend
Mr. A was up this weekend. In fact, he's still up! He wanted to stay another night, but didn't want to impose on Indigo and me. I told him I was fine with it, but he'd have to check with Indigo himself. Indigo said he was rather sheepish and didn't even get to asking before Indigo caught on and offered.
Ah, what wonderful men I have in my life! Mr. A and I celebrated our anniversary this weekend. We went to the Keg. It was pretty awesome! It's so nice to order a rare steak and GET a rare steak. Mmmmm. Oh yeah, and the company wasn't half bad, either! Thank you, Indigo. I wouldn't have another wonderful person in my life if it wasn't for your bravery and selflessness in taking this journey with me. You've grown so much in the last year, and I am so proud of you! I love watching you take your own happiness and wellbeing into your hands. Funny story for the rest of you ... I commented to Indigo that it had been a while (several months) since he'd expressed worry that he was "boring" and Mr. A was exciting and interesting and we did neat things together. I was expecting some sort of profound statement realizing self-growth on Indigo's part. No, he said that he noticed that Mr. A and I were just as "boring" together as Indigo and me. 
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#187
06-27-2011, 01:49 AM
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:-) That sounds like something my guys would say.
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#188
06-27-2011, 02:07 AM
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Woo-Hoo!
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. Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership. Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy! For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
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06-28-2011, 01:39 AM
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06-28-2011, 01:47 AM
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 Hehehehe.
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