Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > Life stories and blogs

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #181  
Old 06-15-2011, 08:43 AM
BlackUnicorn's Avatar
BlackUnicorn BlackUnicorn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 906
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Indigomontoya View Post
So I might be getting a little brother??

AWESOME
I remember reading about a Himalayan tribe where brothers would marry the same woman and bring her to the family farm and live all together happily ever after.

So now you only need a sherpa.
__________________
Me: bi female in my twenties
Dating: Moonlightrunner
Metamour: Windflower
Reply With Quote
  #182  
Old 06-21-2011, 02:13 AM
TruckerPete TruckerPete is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 999
Default I like lying less!

Mr. A visited his family today. I'm not sure how it came up, but he told his parents kinda sorta about me and Indigo.

Well, it was one plausible "scenario" we'd thought of to explain our living arrangements. He told them that Indigo and I live together. That he's my ex, and the breakup was amicable, but we bought the house together when we were dating. And that we live together because it's financially beneficial.

He told them that he and Indigo get along well and have the same sense of humour, and that the three of us hang out.

They were actually okay with this. His mom said that if our (my and Indigo's) relationship works for us, who were they to judge?



This is better than I was expecting. They are nice people, but more judgmental than I'm comfy with. The family also tends to be quite critical of who is doing what, working where, dating who, etc. to the point that Mr. A was happy his cousin had met his fianceť online because it paved the way for us.

Indigo did point out that broken up and living together was quite different from married and dating their son, but still ... if they hadn't been okay with this scenario, then they certainly wouldn't be alright with the truth.

I still feel crummy for lying, but it's not my choice, really. At least it's less lying.
Reply With Quote
  #183  
Old 06-21-2011, 03:15 AM
AnnabelMore's Avatar
AnnabelMore AnnabelMore is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 2,244
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Indigomontoya View Post
So I might be getting a little brother??

AWESOME
This is the most adorable thing anyone has ever said.
Reply With Quote
  #184  
Old 06-21-2011, 04:07 AM
Minxxa Minxxa is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: California
Posts: 497
Default

It's sometimes such a fine fine line with the lying. :-/

I'm a big one for being completely honest. I HATE lying and other than that I suck at it too. LOL

But then I have a world where I don't have to explain anything to anybody. My mom is old and we don't talk about the specifics of my relationship with my husband. I don't have anyone to explain anything to... but then I don't have family I share days and holidays with either. My m-in-law most likely doesn't know but she knows her son and I doubt she'd be surprised. We just haven't been in the position to HAVE to explain anything yet.

Long story short (sheesh), I understand where you're coming from.
Reply With Quote
  #185  
Old 06-27-2011, 01:43 AM
TruckerPete TruckerPete is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 999
Default Fantastic weekend

Mr. A was up this weekend. In fact, he's still up! He wanted to stay another night, but didn't want to impose on Indigo and me. I told him I was fine with it, but he'd have to check with Indigo himself. Indigo said he was rather sheepish and didn't even get to asking before Indigo caught on and offered.

Ah, what wonderful men I have in my life!

Mr. A and I celebrated our anniversary this weekend. We went to the Keg. It was pretty awesome! It's so nice to order a rare steak and GET a rare steak. Mmmmm. Oh yeah, and the company wasn't half bad, either!

Thank you, Indigo. I wouldn't have another wonderful person in my life if it wasn't for your bravery and selflessness in taking this journey with me. You've grown so much in the last year, and I am so proud of you! I love watching you take your own happiness and wellbeing into your hands.

Funny story for the rest of you ... I commented to Indigo that it had been a while (several months) since he'd expressed worry that he was "boring" and Mr. A was exciting and interesting and we did neat things together. I was expecting some sort of profound statement realizing self-growth on Indigo's part. No, he said that he noticed that Mr. A and I were just as "boring" together as Indigo and me.
Reply With Quote
  #186  
Old 06-27-2011, 01:48 AM
Ariakas Ariakas is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Posts: 2,872
Default

Congrats again TP.. on one year. A great milestone.

And celebrating at the keg.. one of my favorite places.
Reply With Quote
  #187  
Old 06-27-2011, 01:49 AM
BrigidsDaughter's Avatar
BrigidsDaughter BrigidsDaughter is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 822
Default

:-) That sounds like something my guys would say.
Reply With Quote
  #188  
Old 06-27-2011, 02:07 AM
nycindie's Avatar
nycindie nycindie is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: The Big Apple
Posts: 7,423
Default

Woo-Hoo!
__________________
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia "

An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/
Reply With Quote
  #189  
Old 06-28-2011, 01:39 AM
Minxxa Minxxa is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: California
Posts: 497
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by TruckerPete View Post
Funny story for the rest of you ... I commented to Indigo that it had been a while (several months) since he'd expressed worry that he was "boring" and Mr. A was exciting and interesting and we did neat things together. I was expecting some sort of profound statement realizing self-growth on Indigo's part. No, he said that he noticed that Mr. A and I were just as "boring" together as Indigo and me.
LOL. It is kind of a profound statement considering a lot of newly nonmonogamous people worry about being boring while the new person is exciting!
Reply With Quote
  #190  
Old 06-28-2011, 01:47 AM
TruckerPete TruckerPete is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 999
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Minxxa View Post
LOL. It is kind of a profound statement considering a lot of newly nonmonogamous people worry about being boring while the new person is exciting!
Yeah, he didn't believe me months ago when I said I LIKE being boring. Maybe now he believes ... Hehehehe.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
blog, comminication, depression, new to poly, nre, personal growth, vee

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 12:38 PM.