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Old 06-26-2011, 09:35 PM
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I wasn't thinking of you when I said that, so I hope you didn't think I meant it that way.
No, I didn't. I just like to talk, ya see.

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You are very clear about what you want. But I was thinking about people I've known who have hidden behind an "innocent" activity when they really didn't want to own up to their true agenda that had sex or seduction at the core of it.
Oh, yeah, that. And it can be conscious or unconscious activity, too. I was saying I looked deeply and I don't think I'm fooling myself.

Seems to me a lot of folks unconsciously or semi-consciously seek what they think is sexual intimacy, but which is really a "score" in a game of making up for a lack of self-worth / self-esteem. Those gotta be looked out for, too. They cannot give what a guy like me wants and/or needs.: genuine innocent affection and warmth. It would be pseudo-cuddlers playing such a game some of the time, I'll bet.
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Yeah, Cindie, remember that guy G I had a few dates (?) with that cuddled the heck out of me, massaged me all over for an hour with our shirts off til we were both fully aroused, did a booty dance, and then backed off from any sexual touching? That was an insanity of mixed messages.
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Old 06-26-2011, 09:51 PM
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Yeah, Cindie, remember that guy G I had a few dates (?) with that cuddled the heck out of me, massaged me all over for an hour with our shirts off til we were both fully aroused, did a booty dance, and then backed off from any sexual touching? That was an insanity of mixed messages.
Oh yes, and then he tried to make it all your fault for thinking it would go further, as if what he did had nothing to do with it.
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I'm glad that you know what you're looking for River. I'd cuddle with you if it weren't for the distance. *cuddles*
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Old 06-27-2011, 04:56 PM
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Rather amazingly, I got to share some cuddle time with my "straight" friend, Russell, yesterday evening! (I put "straight" in quotes, because he said this morning that he doesn't
consider himself straight... or gay, or bi. He's heterosexual but also biamorous. He loves to be loved by -- and love -- men, including cuddles. He has no interest in sex with men.)

Russell and I cuddled once before, years and years ago. Somehow that fact came up in conversation yesterday evening, and Russell said something that suggested he wouldn't mind doing that again, and so I said "Come on baby!" and made room for him in this big
bowl shaped chair thingy he has. And we held and caressed one another. It was quite delicious and wonderful! He even gave me little pecks on my upper arms ... did he peck my neck? Don't remember for sure, but it was all so very welcome and joyous and tender.

Later we talked about how the culture is so F-ed up and frowns on such a simple pleasurable kind of sharing... and that sort of thing. I told him he can drop in on me for cuddles whenever he wants them.

I'm just about astonished at how the Mystery is showering me with gifts these days! I'm getting very, very happy! I'm a happy camper!
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Old 06-27-2011, 05:01 PM
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When I read/hear about these organized cuddle parties that ask for $40 I feel it is an aberration of something that was very special to me.
ya that totally makes sense. That's too bad. I suppose for those who don't have access to touch of any kind, or need more would be in luck. This is why we cuddle our clients. A lot of them were in institutions where they were not touched. Its part of my job description as I see it
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In victorian times this was very common actually! They called it "romantic friendship." Google it. There are some good articles on it.

Right around the time my best friend and I declared our attraction to eachother, we would sit and just hold hands, stroke eachother's backs, or brush eachother's hair while watching a movie. At that time we were not yet sexually involved, but it sure turned into that pretty quickly! She and I "click" on a very deep level and so it seemed very natural. However, I cannot imagine doing that with any of my other friends. I guess if I felt a deep connection with them though, it could happen.
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Non sexual loving energy is very important to me I must say. Within my very close circle of good friends - we hug and cuddle without restraint. There are couples in the group...and that pretty much means nothing when we are together..

I'm just as likely to fall asleep cuddled up to my darling teresa (and both of us are straight) as I am to her partner..
If I go to the opera with her partner, who I also love...I will cuddle up against him and we will hold hands throughout..

We all had a weekend away together recently - 7 adults and my child...and it was cuddle after cuddle. No confusion on sexual energy what..so...ever...
I'm straight - I have girlfriends that stay overnight with me and sleep in my bed...we watch films together and fall asleep together...
Similarly my male friends will sleep in my bed when they stay...and we cuddle.

I don't find any of it confusing. I'm a big fan.
And aren't we all so different....a good thing
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Wow, Bella, what a blessed existence you have! Your friends are obviously quite wonderfull people! Reading what you wrote brought a big smile on my face and in my heart. Rock on! (Except at the opera.)

My cuddly-friend, Russell, and I spent the evening together yesterday. We didn't cuddle, but we declared our love to one another and hugged several times. Lots of soulful eye contact and heartfull and soulfull talking. I love him so!

I, too, am very blessed. Overflowingly.
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