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Old 06-26-2011, 09:35 PM
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Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
I wasn't thinking of you when I said that, so I hope you didn't think I meant it that way.
No, I didn't. I just like to talk, ya see.

Originally Posted by nycindie View Post
You are very clear about what you want. But I was thinking about people I've known who have hidden behind an "innocent" activity when they really didn't want to own up to their true agenda that had sex or seduction at the core of it.
Oh, yeah, that. And it can be conscious or unconscious activity, too. I was saying I looked deeply and I don't think I'm fooling myself.

Seems to me a lot of folks unconsciously or semi-consciously seek what they think is sexual intimacy, but which is really a "score" in a game of making up for a lack of self-worth / self-esteem. Those gotta be looked out for, too. They cannot give what a guy like me wants and/or needs.: genuine innocent affection and warmth. It would be pseudo-cuddlers playing such a game some of the time, I'll bet.
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"Love is always about learning the Nature of things."

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