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Old 06-25-2011, 10:34 PM
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TL - nice job, sir

Ugh.

Spent this morning trying to calm Mo down after Asshole showed up unannounced on her facebook. I've never seen her physically react with nausea to the unexpected apearance of someone before. They last spoke when he got ahold of her - again unannounced and unwanted - three years ago and she told him what she thought of him then. So, we've heard nothing from him until now. She keeps all of her photos and everything set to where only friends can see them, and recently she set one album - pics from a Tuesday night practice - up to where friends of friends can see it, so that everyone who was there could tag themselves. And as soon as she does, this guy sends her a private message about those pics of her.

So Asshole, how long have you been cyberstalking my wife?
I discussed several options with her last night, IE blocking him, telling his wife what's going on and what he did to Mo, ect. But in the end, it's her decision to make. My job is to make sure she's mentally and emotionally taken care of right now, not to handle this myself.

Unless she asks me to.
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Old 06-26-2011, 12:54 AM
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I have an amazing husband. Instead of the several possibilities he had to go tonight, he's taking care of me. Icluding making me a very yummy dinner with his special dill and butter potatoes It's the little things

Trying to get my brain back in order and decide what to do. I can't decide if I just want to block the asshole, send him a message telling him to never contact me again, contact his wife or just ignore the whole thing.

Just kind of a ball of disconected emotion at the moment and irritated with myself for letting him get to me like that.
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Old 06-26-2011, 01:45 PM
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Exhausted. Got in from Dallas yesterday and just beat. My flights on both ends, had delays, were at really stupid times and had layovers. Poor planning on my part has knocked me on my ass.

Today is a day of nothing.. Not that I could do much if I tried.
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Old 06-26-2011, 03:19 PM
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Been feeling kind of blah the last couple of days mostly due to finances being super tight and the lack of any real creative days in the workshop since we got back. I realize the guys needed a break from 7 day a week build days, but I really struggled to keep the energy positive down in the shop while they were gone.

Pretty Lady sent me a free copy of one of her books Thursday night; which was amazing and I finished by Friday night. Yesterday we watched as my youngest sister graduated from high school. That, coupled with my son moving up to middle school in Sept, makes me feel old for some reason.
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Old 06-26-2011, 04:06 PM
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Today is a gorgeous day. Promises to be super busy with gardening, minor ball and derby.

Not sure how I'll fit it all in... :P
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Old 06-26-2011, 04:57 PM
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The derby game last night was intense. We were tied after the final jam. In the end the other team won by 10 points in the tie breaker. I've never seen a tied game before!
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Old 06-26-2011, 07:42 PM
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Feeling a bit relieved. For the past couple of days I've been worrying about Wendigo, as I haven't heard from him since I had to take him home early Wednesday. I finally got in contact with him today and found out that he hasn't been online because his sleep schedule is out of wack from spending Thursday at the doctor and Thursday night to Friday morning in the ER.

We were all concerned that his leg injury from Ragnarok was more serious than just a bruise/ strain from where our friend in metal greeves landed on him, but with no insurance Wendigo was reluctant to go to the doctor. I'm glad he did because the injured tissue was infected. So now he is home on antibiotics and allowing himself to rest for a few more days. Building armor, etc. before the next event in August can wait a few days while he gets better and gives me a few more days to relax around the house with Runic Wolf.
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Old 06-26-2011, 08:24 PM
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We were all concerned that his leg injury from Ragnarok was more serious than just a bruise/ strain from where our friend in metal greeves landed on him, but with no insurance Wendigo was reluctant to go to the doctor.
Eeek! It never occurred to me that people who don't have health insurance would be participating in activities like this, where there is such potential for getting hurt. I've had long periods of being uninsured in my life, it is scary to have an injury and then be more afraid of the bill then anything else. Maybe he can find an inexpensive insurance somehow? NYS has some options, I think. Also, I do believe that most hospitals in NYS have a fund that covers people who cannot pay - I know they are not allowed to turn away uninsured people.
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Old 06-26-2011, 10:38 PM
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With his wife being an author, they get paid in irregular lump sum payments - royalties or advances - so it makes it hard to get into any of the low or no cost insurances we have here in NY. They base if off of their annual income instead of monthly and that puts them over the line. Unfortunately when they do get the money they are throwing it at all teh bills that haven't been paid for months. So authors and artists, like Wendigo, learn to adapt to not having insurance for the most part until they hit the big time. It just means that all of her next royalty payment will go towards paying his hospital bill. :-(
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Old 06-26-2011, 11:42 PM
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So now he is home on antibiotics and allowing himself to rest for a few more days. Building armor, etc. before the next event in August can wait a few days while he gets better and gives me a few more days to relax around the house with Runic Wolf.
LOL, that sounds exactly like me

"Well, I broke myself too badly to fight..... time to BUILD STUFF!!!!"

And then Mohegan is lost in the pile of foam, tape, and cores for the next three days
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