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Old 06-20-2011, 08:11 PM
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Old 06-22-2011, 09:35 PM
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I was watching a documentary last night about a fellow who had been working as a professional Master for about 20 years. The documentary really went into depth about all the screwed up things that had happened to him as a child and a young man. It was making me think how much of what happens to us in our early years influences our sexuality? I was also thinking that I know a lot of people who are involved in BDSM in one form or another, and for the most part they are pretty normal people. Was this documentary just trying to be sensationalist or is there some basis in things that happen to you as a kid have you turn out a certain way as an adult?

I'm worried that in wondering these things and typing them out I'm going to offend someone in some way. I really am just trying to understand though. I'm also wondering because there are some pretty interesting things that go on in my own head that I wonder if they are attached to things from my past too? Human sexuality is such an interesting thing. I find that, at least in myself, it evolves from year to year and just when I think I'm comfortable in my sexuality there's some kind of shift.
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Old 06-23-2011, 01:58 PM
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I'm pretty sure that was sensationalist.

There have been a number of "polls" on various groups on fetlife - while some (and I fall into this catagory) have some history that could be used to explain WHY they're into BDSM - about 1/2 don't.

Of course those are informal polls and anecdotal and may have absolutely no basis in reality - but
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Old 06-23-2011, 07:45 PM
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So I'm going to keep on rambling because it's my blog, dammit, and I can do whatever I want to (within reason) here.

So along the lines of BDSM relating to past traumas (for those who this is the case). Is it a way to take power back from something that once held power over you? I can see it working both ways, in a dominant role literally taking the power and in a submissive role having some control over what is being done to your body and freely allowing it to happen.

I'm busy working through stuff that is kicking around in my head. This seems to be the best place possible to get some of it out and written down. I welcome any responses but I am not expecting them (yet another reason it's going in the blog section). I'm sure somehow and in some way this is related to something that I have to work through for myself. I'm not sure precisely what that is yet. I just know for the time being that this topic has my focus.
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Is it a way to take power back from something that once held power over you? .

I definitely see this as being a motivator in some cases. You see this in other things as well; video games, the military, and almost anything that can give an otherwise seemingly powerless person control.

In this case, I see the Dom role as therapy just as sometimes I see submission being used for therapy. That's how it works for me in submitting; there is therapy contained within the punishment.
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I definitely see this as being a motivator in some cases. You see this in other things as well; video games, the military, and almost anything that can give an otherwise seemingly powerless person control.

In this case, I see the Dom role as therapy just as sometimes I see submission being used for therapy. That's how it works for me in submitting; there is therapy contained within the punishment.
Because you feel the need to be punished and to do penance for something?
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Which now makes me wonder if there are more submissive types (who partake in corporal punishment) among Catholics and other strict Christian religions (the ones that promote guilt).
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Which now makes me wonder if there are more submissive types (who partake in corporal punishment) among Catholics and other strict Christian religions (the ones that promote guilt).
Catholics got the title in this area!! We've been doing this to ourselves for a very long time. I would likely have beenn an extremist in the middle ages. Hair shirt and crusader furry!
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