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Old 06-22-2011, 01:51 PM
MileHighQuad MileHighQuad is offline
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Colorado
Posts: 11
Default Quad in Hiding

I am Struggling with the need to behave differently around others because the other couple in our quad is so worried about coming out. I understand, and sympathize with their feelings- one is a school teacher and the other works for the military as a civilian contractor. We live in a very conservatively minded town, and we have children between the ages of 8-13. I get it, really. But it is so hard to go from being open and affectionate with eachother when we are alone or out of town, to throwing up walls so that we appear to just be friends when anyone else is near. We've been a quad for a year and a half now, so the love attachments are pretty strong now. We see eachother almost everyday. Our families have dinner at eachother's houses 2-4 times a week. We get to have all nighters together about every 6-8 weeks, and find stolen moments to share a couple intimate hours about once every week. My love for these people is so strong, I feel like I am constantly trying to stuff this huge thing into a tiny box. But, it never quite fits and it spills out all over the place. I want to shout our love from the rooftops, but cannot. Mostly I'm just venting, but if anyone has advice for how to deal with this, I appreciate it. Reading all your posts when I so often feel like we are alone in this helps me a lot. Thanks everyone! :-)
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