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Old 06-12-2011, 01:53 PM
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I must admit I have been following this story with some interest! I gotta be honest--while I don't watch soap operas, checking in on this thread as a lurker was kinda the equivalent for me! I wish you well in your endeavors. And if you have any really hot delicious sex, be sure and mention it! On a more serious note, I have been curious what the experience of poly is like and this thread has been a fascinating read. There were some good pieces of wisdom that I want to remember if ever I should get into a polyamorous relationship.
Just remember that unlike a soap opera, real people are attached to this.
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Old 06-12-2011, 05:53 PM
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Just remember that unlike a soap opera, real people are attached to this.
Point taken! I must admit, I do feel very inspired by Freetime. I have almost no relationship experience and I find myself wondering, if I should happen to end up in a poly relationship (deliberately or otherwise), will I struggle with these same feelings? I guess there's an alpha personality inside me that wants to rise up to the challenge and deliberately go looking for a poly relationship (and I love the idea of having not just one, but a group of people who are like family to me, know all of my secrets, and can support me and be supported by me).

But after reading Freetime's thread I am also cautious. I can't predict in advance what emotions I might experience, and it might end up being tougher than I had imagined. I hope that you are doing well, Freetime, and you should know that you've got another fan who is cheering for you to succeed!
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Old 06-13-2011, 07:47 AM
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Thanks PussNBoots . life's good right now. real good. I'm currently having a drink and smoking a montecristo, pondering just how different my life is today from where this all began.

I wouldn't trade a single day of the pain, fear, uncertainty or tears for an easier journey, because what I have today is a life being lived as it was meant to be.. Filled with real Joy and amazement at the people entering my life. I still have moments of sudden unexpected sadness, but it's just part of letting go and growing up.

I have had moments so intense, so filled with love, kindness, and an Intimacy I have dearly missed.

I have some very basic rules I live by today, here they are.

Don't stop
never back up
Don't slow down
Always forward.

I'm having this tattooed on my left forearm by the way.

Not exactly a safe way to go about this, but the only thing I got playing it safe was a sorrow filled and lonely existence. So yeah, Fuck it.

This may all crash and burn to the ground next week, I may implode tomorrow, but at least I'll do so feeling like a human being experiencing my life to it's fullest. I have such a long way to go, but I have hope that maybe, just maybe, I'll finally be able to stand in the sunlight and say, I get it. I belong.

Stop by anytime, I'll pour us both a drink and we can talk some more about this odd walk into Polyamory.

be well

Freetime.


And TP? I'd marry you right now. is that a crush?

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Old 06-13-2011, 11:44 AM
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And TP? I'd marry you right now. is that a crush?
See, I would've jumped on you earlier, but you were all "I'm mono as mono can be!!" and then you showed up with two girlfriends.
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Old 06-15-2011, 06:56 AM
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See, I would've jumped on you earlier, but you were all "I'm mono as mono can be!!" and then you showed up with two girlfriends.
Did I ever mention I'm very good at multitasking?
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Old 06-15-2011, 07:07 AM
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Freetime asked why people are wondering about his having two girlfriends. I replied maybe it's because your posts go something like this:

I'm mono
me mono
Really, I'm mono
I'm absolutely mono
Just call me mono guy
It's impossible to be more mono than me
mono mono mono etc.

Oops I now have two girlfriends...
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Old 06-15-2011, 02:13 PM
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I'm mono
me mono
Really, I'm mono
I'm absolutely mono
Just call me mono guy
It's impossible to be more mono than me
mono mono mono etc.

Oops I now have two girlfriends...
This is great! I'm glad too because there's only room for one really really mono man on here
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Old 06-15-2011, 09:17 PM
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Freetime asked why people are wondering about his having two girlfriends. I replied maybe it's because your posts go something like this:

I'm mono
me mono
Really, I'm mono
I'm absolutely mono
Just call me mono guy
It's impossible to be more mono than me
mono mono mono etc.

Oops I now have two girlfriends...
Wow I am actually glad for the summary, I haven't been keepibg up, and the hoopla about this has been intruguing from afar. I am happy for a better understanding hahaha...

Its amazing how easy poly is to understand once you figure out you can do non-monogamy haha
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Old 06-17-2011, 10:56 AM
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This is great! I'm glad too because there's only room for one really really mono man on here
Mono is its own sexy, and Polys don't mind sharing it.
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Old 06-20-2011, 04:17 AM
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Mono is its own sexy, and Polys don't mind sharing it.
I like that.
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