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Old 06-13-2011, 12:09 AM
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yes and no. This person alienates themself from their partner.
But this issue is that due to location of where they live, they can now only see their SO overnight a 2-4 times a week and their other partner once every couple a weeks. Used to being able to have sex any day of any week. But, in light of their new living arrangement, only 3-4 times a week.

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I just wanted to gain perspective from some people on the outside, so I could filter my response more appropriately.
Oh, when you put it that way... alter the living situation, or be patient and masturbate more. Lots of porn out there.
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Old 06-13-2011, 12:12 AM
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This person is feeling alienated from their SO, and really only has enjoyable sex when the other person/people are involved? That doesn't sound like a healthy foundation for a sustainable poly dynamic.
Wait, what? Where did you get that from? Sheesh. They can't have fulfilling sex unless it's with 2 people at once? Talk about spoiled.
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Old 06-13-2011, 12:31 AM
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This is what they call a "high-class problem." Sheesh is right, LOL.
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Old 06-13-2011, 03:07 AM
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Wait, what? Where did you get that from? Sheesh. They can't have fulfilling sex unless it's with 2 people at once? Talk about spoiled.
LOL - I meant, with someone other than the SO... not necessarily the SO and someone else together.
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Old 06-13-2011, 03:12 AM
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3-4 times a week, yes. But not daily and it "wears thin".
it could always be worse. I'm on deployment and haven't had sex in 2 months and It'll be 2 more months til I get home. there's alot of porn out there but sometimes masturbation just doesn't cut it.
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Old 06-13-2011, 04:18 AM
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Sorry what's an Fb?
I read facebook when I first read it and I was wondering what facebook had to do with getting laid. I'm glad you asked first.

As for the question, quite honestly it sounds a little like whining. 3-4 times a week of having sex is really not too bad at all. If this person wants it every day then they can look at changing their living situation to make sex with the partners more accessible or look into adding someone else into the mix, either in terms of another relationship or changing standards to including fuck buddies into the equation.
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Old 06-13-2011, 04:29 AM
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As for the question, quite honestly it sounds a little like whining..
3-4 times is pretty damn good for most of the full time working, parenting folks I know. In fact I'd say that it is above average.
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Old 06-13-2011, 04:42 AM
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3-4 times is pretty damn good for most of the full time working, parenting folks I know. In fact I'd say that it is above average.
Seriously, I would kill for that much! Then again it's only the two of us right now, both of us are over 40, 2 kids and have massive amounts of outside activities that just suck energy (he also needs way more sleep than I do ).
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Old 06-13-2011, 04:52 AM
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Man, now you guys are making me feel spoiled...
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Old 06-13-2011, 05:16 AM
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OK OK OK...

I figure everyone knows by now that I like sex. Im good at sex and I like to bring my partners ( and Ill admitt, myself) lots of joy in bed. As for how many times a week I get it...

LR comes and stays at my house Friday nights. We make love that evening and somtimes again in the morning Saturday. I take the kids Saturday nights and LR goes back home to GG. On occasions LR will come over mid week but its rare.
As for FB's, LR brought up not being ok with them during our " Boundry making" I agreed that we would leave FB's out. As for FWB, LR wanted there to be a time frame of "friendship" before having sexually contact. 6 months to be exact. At the time I agreed to that. So finding a partner to fill my sexual drive needs, is not an easy just go out and "fuck" sort of thing.

As for changing my living arrangments.... If I could manage to find a way to be happy and live in the same house as LR and GG, I would do it. But I would do it for different reasons than to get laid more often.

I didnt check to see when this post started but it was only a few days ago that I mentioned to LR that I was struggling with the facts that I dont get enough physical intimacy to satisfiy my needs. That I was trying to not break our boundry rules and that I was " taking matters into my own hands" but that just wasnt cutting it. So as far as whining goes...um yeah ..no. I wasnt whining, I was opening up and being honest about somthing that Im a little bit embarassed about ( thats probably why LR didnt mention, outright , that it was me). So much for honesty and openness.

As for the guy ( sorry I didnt catch your name) that is deployed. I understand your position. I live in Alaska and work as an Electrician forman. I get sent out of town, to remote villages( I mean really F'ing remote) and do anywhere from 2 week hitches to 10 week hitches. I do know what its like to go without the touch of a woman for extended periods of time, and it sucks. I dealt with it then, just like Ill deal with it now. So I feel your pain. I also wanted to add thanks, Thanks for your service. I really do appreciate what you are doing for us back home.


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