Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > Fireplace

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #71  
Old 06-12-2011, 11:42 PM
Mohegan's Avatar
Mohegan Mohegan is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 756
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by BrigidsDaughter View Post
http://www.dagorhirragnarok.com/ It is a week long battle in Pennsylvania.
When did it move to PA?

Hope you guys have a good time. I am so glad darkon only does weekend campouts. Karma has wanted to go to rag but that requires money and me being okay with him being gone that long
Reply With Quote
  #72  
Old 06-13-2011, 12:11 AM
LovingRadiance's Avatar
LovingRadiance LovingRadiance is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Alaska
Posts: 5,284
Default

baby's sick, so momma's not getting any sleep. He's congested and can't sleep laying down or he gts to coughing.
SO, grandma's been stepping in to help so mommy can sleep here and there. Now grandma has it too and feels like shit. Slept til 11am-3pm this afternoon.
Haven't done my homework. Can't think straight, throat hurts.
Supposed to babysit tomorrow...

I feel like shit and I feel overwhelmed.

To top it all off;

Friday night Maca texted that we needed to talk about a "settlement" regarding our marriage. He wants to end the marriage. Still wants a list of things; but no moving back in, no commitment, no marriage.
He appears to be utterly baffled by my devastation and has told at least one of my friends that he's "just doing this for LR, giving her the space she needs to have a real relationship with GG." Ironically, that friend-knows better. I don't NEED space, I need acceptance.

But-welcome 12 steps..... I'm accepting that which isn't mine to change (his mind).
__________________
"Love As Thou Wilt"
Reply With Quote
  #73  
Old 06-13-2011, 12:17 AM
Magdlyn's Avatar
Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Metro West Massachusetts
Posts: 3,668
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
baby's sick, so momma's not getting any sleep. He's congested and can't sleep laying down or he gts to coughing.
SO, grandma's been stepping in to help so mommy can sleep here and there. Now grandma has it too and feels like shit. Slept til 11am-3pm this afternoon.
Haven't done my homework. Can't think straight, throat hurts.
Supposed to babysit tomorrow...
I caught a cold from the twins i sit for too, LR. Started coughing today, took a long nap too. Darn kids!

Quote:

I feel like shit and I feel overwhelmed.

To top it all off;

Friday night Maca texted that we needed to talk about a "settlement" regarding our marriage. He wants to end the marriage. Still wants a list of things; but no moving back in, no commitment, no marriage.
He appears to be utterly baffled by my devastation and has told at least one of my friends that he's "just doing this for LR, giving her the space she needs to have a real relationship with GG." Ironically, that friend-knows better. I don't NEED space, I need acceptance.

But-welcome 12 steps..... I'm accepting that which isn't mine to change (his mind).
He just can't get over the cheating. It blindsided him and it seems to be a deal-breaker. Or so it seems to me...
__________________
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37
Reply With Quote
  #74  
Old 06-13-2011, 12:20 AM
LovingRadiance's Avatar
LovingRadiance LovingRadiance is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Alaska
Posts: 5,284
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Magdlyn View Post
He just can't get over the cheating. It blindsided him and it seems to be a deal-breaker. Or so it seems to me...
Double-standard deal-breaker, but yeah, that's the gist of it. Can't imagine how he's going to manage with the girlfriend, who is currently cheating on one SO with not only him but also another couple. Shrug. Not my problem, not my business, not my deal.
__________________
"Love As Thou Wilt"
Reply With Quote
  #75  
Old 06-13-2011, 12:21 AM
LovingRadiance's Avatar
LovingRadiance LovingRadiance is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Alaska
Posts: 5,284
Default

on a side note, being a grandma is really good at teaching you whta IS your business and what is NOT your business when it comes to loved ones.

I'm getting SOOOOO good at "oh, I don't know... you'll have eto ask his mommy about that." Said with a confused smile.

Makes the daughter laugh.
__________________
"Love As Thou Wilt"
Reply With Quote
  #76  
Old 06-13-2011, 12:25 AM
nycindie's Avatar
nycindie nycindie is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: The Big Apple
Posts: 7,255
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
He appears to be utterly baffled by my devastation and has told at least one of my friends that he's "just doing this for LR, giving her the space she needs to have a real relationship with GG."
Whaaaa???

Of course, you're devastated!

Real relationship with GG? But it's real now, how is this going to make it suddenly real? What is the logic here? He has a gf, can't he abide by you having GG as well as Maca in your life? Maca's staying married to you doesn't mean the relationship with GG isn't real. And having GG in your life doesn't mean your marriage to Maca is less than or not "real."

I'm just blurting out what comes to mind. I know you know these things. Where is he? Can I go shake him? :/

Sorry to hear this is happening, but at least he wants to talk - maybe you can convey to him somehow that this is not what you want and there can be a way to stay together. It seems like you are both doing so well living apart, you can still be married and have such an arrangement.
__________________
The world opens up... when you do.

Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me. ~Bryan Ferry
"Love is that condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own." ~Robert Heinlein

Last edited by nycindie; 06-13-2011 at 12:27 AM.
Reply With Quote
  #77  
Old 06-13-2011, 12:30 AM
BrigidsDaughter's Avatar
BrigidsDaughter BrigidsDaughter is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 822
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mohegan View Post
When did it move to PA?

Hope you guys have a good time. I am so glad darkon only does weekend campouts. Karma has wanted to go to rag but that requires money and me being okay with him being gone that long
I'm not sure. I'm part of a unit that fights for Winterfell in NY. Rag was in PA last year, but none of my unit was part of Dag before that. Thankfully we already do the weekends for Kingdoms of Novitas and most of us already had garb. Runic Wolf and Wendigo have a couple others who carpooled with them, but I'm driving down by myself.
Reply With Quote
  #78  
Old 06-13-2011, 01:23 AM
Karma's Avatar
Karma Karma is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Wherever I'm needed.
Posts: 404
Default

As of half an hour ago, I am officially a probationary member of a new unit in Darkon! I'v been a "nomad" for a while now, after the group of us split from the country J and I founded. I've had lots of offers, but I didn't want to jump into anything right off the bat - and I'm glad I didn't Carcosa, the new country, is pretty much made up of friends of mine that I've known for a few years, or new people that I like already.

Time to go drinking with my new countrymates
__________________
This is my family. It may be little, and broken, but it's still good. Yeah, still good.
Reply With Quote
  #79  
Old 06-13-2011, 01:48 AM
Ariakas Ariakas is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Posts: 2,872
Default

*hug* @ lr.. I have sent my thoughts. Hopefully this all works out somehow. Sorry it has come to this.
Reply With Quote
  #80  
Old 06-13-2011, 01:53 AM
Ariakas Ariakas is offline
Moderator
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Posts: 2,872
Default

I had a great weekend with the island crowd. It was really good to see derby, II, rp, pn, mono and the crowd. Was really good catching up. Had an absolute blast at the friday burlesque show. The bbq yesterday was a perfect one to get the summer started (it was my first of the year)

Thanks to derby and II for being great hosts and putting uyp with two guests. See everyone in a few weeks.

As usual its heart warming to see the realization of poly. It really puts things in perspective what you see poly just being what it is. A bunch of good relationships.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
checking in, chit-chat, community, conversation, status, update

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 07:10 PM.