Originally Posted by nycindie
Maybe what I've written here makes my point more clear?
Sure! But you weren't really unclear to begin with. I merely wanted to point out that while we can bring all kinds
of particular meanings to sex, sex itself has its own meanings independently of what we bring to it.
Oftentimes, we bring meanings to sex which we've not considered carefully at all -- such as the one where sex = loving (of a particular kind) which must be exclusive
in order for it to be "real love" -- or expression thereof. That can be shown to be false, if we're willing to examine it carefully -- since "romantic" love of the most satisfying kind can be sexually and emotionally non-monogamous (which is a fact, not a speculation). That is, it is a fact if we can accept the testimony of the MILLIONS of people who experience it as such.