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Old 06-07-2011, 06:26 PM
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When we're on, we have an amazing love that I can't even describe..
Sorry, but ADD aside, maybe you have "amazing love that you can't even describe" and he just had a hard on and thinks you're cute and you get on okay...

Personally I wouldn't tolerate the kind of behaviour you describe. If this were me I would be asking him to be more considerate/empathetic and if he can't, zip it and don't ask to break a connection with questions of going to fuck others or seeing other romantic interests.

Really? Even with ADD I don't think that is acceptable. Should he not consider that what he says is hurtful and down right rude to even suggest?
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Old 06-07-2011, 10:09 PM
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RP, people with ADD/ADHD organize their thinking very differently than people without it. Depending on the severity of it, they can seem downright impossible to reason with. They tend to hyperfocus on certain things and let everything else fall apart. Communication and what would seem like the simplest of social skills are extremely challenging and cause huge anxieties for someone with ADD. And a large percentage of sexual compulsives or sex addicts have ADHD. They get bored and distracted very easily and often look for a sexual outlet. It's hard not to take these behaviors personally but that seems to be a recurrent theme among couples where one spouse has ADD.

Jeni, here's a good resource of articles about relationships and ADD:
http://www.additudemag.com/topic/adu...tionships.html

http://www.additudemag.com/search/ke...0Marriage.html

I would say to make sure whatever therapist you do see, is familiar and in tune with adult ADD/ADHD.
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Old 06-08-2011, 12:23 AM
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Well, then there is lots to discuss on how to feel okay about all that and be tolerant.
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