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Old 06-07-2011, 03:19 AM
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Well shit fire and save matches, fuck a duck and see what hatches!
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Old 06-07-2011, 03:47 AM
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You my dear were the one who challenged my beliefs and my stance in this wee adventure, so you tell me. See you Wednesday.
Damn, I should have rearranged my schedule when you were here and got together with ya - who knows what might've happened??!!
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Old 06-07-2011, 04:31 AM
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Damn, I should have rearranged my schedule when you were here and got together with ya - who knows what might've happened??!!
Oh you tease me so.
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Old 06-07-2011, 08:49 AM
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Default A short note to my wife, I love you.

My darling T, how naive of me to think that you wouldn't be bothered by my time with another. How could you not? Because you were first to the experience I assumed you prepared. How foolish of me. I'm sorry baby.

I love you T, I,m not going anywhere sweetheart, I'm right here.




Red pepper reminded me months ago that my role in this, in part, is to give comfort regardless of cause or reason. and although I wasn't sure of that then, I am certain of it now.

Radical honesty and Radical acceptance. Interesting.

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Old 06-07-2011, 10:07 AM
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Freetime, prepare to meet a metric fucktonne of NRE.

Be careful!
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Old 06-07-2011, 06:18 PM
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Yes be careful. Its sometimes smoke and mirrors until someone gets hurt and then all is revealed...

wishing you the best however.

Remember to go slow and think on step ahead if you can..

Ya whatever, NRE here we come....

lalala not listening, I know *tease*

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Old 06-07-2011, 11:17 PM
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My darling T, how naive of me to think that you wouldn't be bothered by my time with another. How could you not? Because you were first to the experience I assumed you prepared. How foolish of me. I'm sorry baby.

I love you T, I,m not going anywhere sweetheart, I'm right here.




Red pepper reminded me months ago that my role in this, in part, is to give comfort regardless of cause or reason. and although I wasn't sure of that then, I am certain of it now.

Radical honesty and Radical acceptance. Interesting.
I made this same mistaken assumption... we're working through it and I'm sure you and T can too.
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Old 06-07-2011, 11:49 PM
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Well shit fire and save matches, fuck a duck and see what hatches!
You alway make me smile

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Freetime, prepare to meet a metric fucktonne of NRE. Be careful!
Yes. Yes indeed. It's like....a Train engine at or above red line, and growing.

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Yes be careful. Its sometimes smoke and mirrors until someone gets hurt and then all is revealed...
wishing you the best however.
Remember to go slow and think one step ahead if you can..

Ya whatever, NRE here we come....
lalala not listening, I know *tease*
good luck
Oh no dear RP, on this I am indeed listening. As much as I'm enjoying things on this side of the discussion, I will not do so at another's expense. I will slow things down if I start to see my actions causing problems. These relationships are fragile and new, only attention, desire and Truth will work. I absolutely admire these women and I am both startled and touched by there friendship.I also get that things may not last, life's like that. But while i'm here I'll endeavor to be a decent, loving human being.

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I made this same mistaken assumption... we're working through it and I'm sure you and T can too.
Thanks D, I appreciate the support and encouragement. we cleared this up immediately last night. Once T was able to articulate the issue we spent time together doing the things you do when this comes up. The only way I know how to make this work is to deal immediately and honestly with the challenges as they arrive.

Be well everyone,

Freetime.
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Old 06-10-2011, 04:07 AM
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Default This thread has morphed into....

..... a different story and as such I'll hanging out here:

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10738

I'll still check in here, as this is my story and all of the lessons that have made these past 90 days one of the best personal growth experiences of my life.
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Old 06-12-2011, 02:36 AM
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Smile I am fascinated by this thread!

I must admit I have been following this story with some interest! I gotta be honest--while I don't watch soap operas, checking in on this thread as a lurker was kinda the equivalent for me! I wish you well in your endeavors. And if you have any really hot delicious sex, be sure and mention it! On a more serious note, I have been curious what the experience of poly is like and this thread has been a fascinating read. There were some good pieces of wisdom that I want to remember if ever I should get into a polyamorous relationship.
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