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Old 06-05-2011, 10:21 PM
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Default Odd thoughts.

All of this self analysis, pain, growth, awareness, all of this love, laughter, joy and new friends made and the thought comes to me that maybe this isn't about Ts journey into poly, but my own.

Sunny day, think I'll go for a walk.

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Old 06-05-2011, 10:24 PM
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All of this self analysis, pain, growth, awareness, all of this love, laughter, joy and new friends made and the thought comes to me that maybe this isn't about Ts journey into poly, but my own.

Sunny day, think I'll go for a walk.

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Old 06-06-2011, 02:06 PM
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All of this self analysis, pain, growth, awareness, all of this love, laughter, joy and new friends made and the thought comes to me that maybe this isn't about Ts journey into poly, but my own.
Or both!
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Old 06-06-2011, 10:00 PM
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I have given no thought to exploring polyamory other than as a monogamous partner involved in a poly relationship.

Yet I now find myself having to look at this wee concept in detail and from an angle I would not have considered when this journey started.

The details will remain with me as is fitting, but I now find myself with a wife and two girlfriends who all know each other. I should probably be somewhat concerned, but truthfully I'm just going to enjoy the company and be open to what this may look like from here on in.

Complicated, fun, interesting and filled with awesome people, that's my world right now.

So to T, T2 and FHC, Thank you. I'm pretty sure the 3 of you are about to make my life a very different experience.

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Old 06-06-2011, 10:06 PM
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Old 06-06-2011, 10:25 PM
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I believe you Freetime... thousands wouldn't, but I do.

Your GFs are lovely women and I am happy they are in our lives.

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Old 06-06-2011, 10:33 PM
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Oh, now you got me all curious!!!
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Old 06-06-2011, 11:28 PM
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The details will remain with me as is fitting, but I now find myself with a wife and two girlfriends who all know each other. I should probably be somewhat concerned, but truthfully I'm just going to enjoy the company and be open to what this may look like from here on in.
This sounds like a good plan to me .

I'm convinced that good things can come our way just because we open our mind to new options. Enjoy!
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Old 06-07-2011, 12:37 AM
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The details will remain with me as is fitting, but I now find myself with a wife and two girlfriends who all know each other. I should probably be somewhat concerned, but truthfully I'm just going to enjoy the company and be open to what this may look like from here on in.
@#$%^&*, so years of self-analysis and soul searching and online prowling...and apparently the secret to finding a poly gf...is to sit back and be mono!!! WTF dude...you couldn't have told me this in 2007!?



On a more serious note...
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Old 06-07-2011, 02:58 AM
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Duck to water ?
You my dear were the one who challenged my beliefs and my stance in this wee adventure, so you tell me. See you Wednesday.

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Your GFs are lovely women and I am happy they are in our lives.
This is all your fault. And yes they are indeed lovely, as are you my dear.
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Oh, now you got me all curious!!!
Me too! I have no idea where this going, only that my place in this is to bring love, fun and kindness. Looks like fun really.

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This sounds like a good plan to me .

I'm convinced that good things can come our way just because we open our mind to new options. Enjoy!
I've had all the internal drama I need for a lifetime. Time for me to just enjoy the people and experiences they bring to me. may I do the same for them.

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@#$%^&*, so years of self-analysis and soul searching and online prowling...and apparently the secret to finding a poly gf...is to sit back and be mono!!! WTF dude...you couldn't have told me this in 2007!?



On a more serious note...
Mono is it's own sexy!
Apparently I'm not quite the Hardcase I thought I was. Mono or Poly it's still only about love, regardless of how we label it. You folks taught me that.

Be well everyone.

Freetime.

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